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How to Revive Your Relationship’s Spark

01/04/2020
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Couples communication is essential whether you’re at the beginning or you’ve been together long enough to order for the other.

We challenge ever couple to visit a sex shop near you, together!  Walk around and look at the different toys and talk to each other about fantasies and desires.

Often the place you’re at affects what you feel comfortable sharing.  Sex is an essential part of any romantic relationship.  Dr. Ruth, a sex therapist, noted that a bad sex life becomes the biggest thing in a relationship but good sex allows other things to become the biggest part of a relationship.

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By William Mwangi

According to the U.S. National Center for Health Statistics, there were more than 700,000 divorce cases in 2017, and the number has been rising exponentially. Without a doubt, the high number of separations is a testament to the hurts and wounds that relationships are sustaining both in America and across the globe.

The article will enlighten you on what marriage and relationships therapists are saying about rekindling the fire of your relationship.

1. Communicate Frequently and Effectively

There are only three rules to successful relationships. These are:
– Communication
– Communication
– Communication
Most relationships turn sour because of poor or lack of communication. Effective communication, in contrast, enhances your connectivity with your partner and helps you exude positive emotions that strengthen your relationship’s bonds.

In addition, good communication enables you to address issues in your relationship clearly and in a non-judgmental manner, minimizing possibilities of conflicts and confusions.

2. Listen Actively

Active listening is as crucial as effective communication. M. Scott Peck, a renowned American psychiatrist, contended that it is not possible to fully listen while doing something else. To listen to your partner effectively, focus on what he/she is saying without daydreaming, desist from planning your response ahead of time, and be genuinely interested in what your partner is saying.

3. Ask! Don’t Assume

The “I thought…” has crippled many relationships, both new and long-term.

When in doubt of something, have the courage to ask for clarification instead of relying on assumptions. Sometimes (most times) your assumptions will be inaccurate, causing you to hurt the feelings/perceptions of your partner.

Avoid assumptions as much as possible because they impair understanding, dent communication, and ignite unreasonable conflicts in your relationship.

4. Redo What Made You Fall in Love in the First Place

The activities that you stopped doing could be the culprits for your depressing love life. To rekindle your relationship’s fire, make a list of the crazy things you used to do together after falling in love.

These things could be going out on Friday nights, preparing exquisite meals together, or playing video games on your laptop. Besides reviving your relationship’s spark and excitement, these activities make you fall in love again and again.

5. Compliment Your Partner but Don’t Overdo it

What gasoline is to vehicles is what compliments are to relationships. Compliments motivate your partner, foster a solid trust, and spice up your romance life. Dare to throw a genuine compliment to your partner when she buys a beautiful dress, when he gets a good hair cut, or when he perfectly matches his fashionable outfit.

6. Put Your Phone Down

Recent studies conducted on human interactions have unveiled that technology, especially the use of mobile phones, has drastically led to an increase in separation and divorce cases. Putting your phone down or turning it off eliminates the element of distraction, allowing you to engage in a deep and meaningful conversation with your partner. In effect, you will narrow your emotional distance and enjoy an enriching relationship.

Do you want to start enjoying your relationship with a whole new level of desire? Communicate effectively, listen attentively, avoid assumptions, start doing the things you did after falling in love, frequently compliment your partner, and minimize interactions with your phone.

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The Top Tips to Remember When Cleaning Sex Toys

12/26/2019
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The Top Tips to Remember When Cleaning Sex Toys

We’re all aware of the various benefits a healthy sex life can bring to us. From improved mental and physical health to strengthing our relationships with our partners, it can’t be overstated how important being sexually active is for us as adult human beings.

One of the best ways to practice a healthy sexual lifestyle, either alone or with a partner, is to introduce sex toys into the equation. But like every other sexual activity, without taking sexual hygiene into consideration, you can subject yourself to some serious health risks.

That’s why cleaning sex toys properly is so important.

But how exactly do you clean your sex toys in a safe way? Do you need to invest in various sex toy cleaners? And what are the most important tips to keep in mind during the process so both you and your partner can stay happy and healthy?

If you’re asking yourself these kinds of questions, wonder no longer, because we’re here to help! In this article, we’ll give you a basic guideline that you can use to make sure you’re keeping your sex toys clean in a safe and efficient way.

Now then, let’s get started!

Shop with Cleanliness in Mind

When it comes to being hygienic with your sex toys, the process actually starts a lot earlier than you may think. In fact, when you’re shopping for a new sex toy, it’s a good idea to keep cleanliness in mind before making a purchase.

Of course, purchasing items that are easy to clean shouldn’t be your main priority, but it should be something that you seriously consider. The good news? Exciting toys that are made from materials that don’t have any pores, and are therefore the easiest to clean, are easy to find.

Anything made from hard plastic, silicone, elastomer, metal, and glass are all safe bets. So if you find something you like, and it’s made from those materials, you can rest easy knowing that it’s going to be easy to clean.

If you already have a favorite toy that has pores, like something made of jelly, consider covering it with a condom before using it. You’ll be keeping the toy cleaner by doing so, as well as protecting yourself and your partner, which can help prevent any health issues.

Clean Your Toys Before You Store Them

It might sound obvious, but it’s important to note that, in order to be as clean as possible, you should clean all of your toys right after use. By doing this, there isn’t any time for bodily fluids to harden or dry on your toys, and thus, making them harder to get clean.

Obviously stopping to clean a toy can really ruin the mood, so at worst, rinse your toy with clean water a few minutes after use. This will make it much easier to clean the toy when the time comes, and again, it can go a long way in keeping you and your partner healthy.

Regardless of when you clean your toy, it’s important that you do so before storing it away between uses. And it goes without saying, but using a toy that hasn’t been cleaned first isn’t a good idea, and can make both you and your partner sick.

A pro tip? Even if your toy is clean, a quick rinse to remove any dust before applying your favorite lube and using it never hurt anyone.

Avoid Smelly Soaps and Sprays

It’s quite common for both men and women to want to smell good for their partners. And if you’re going to as far as to clean your bed sheets, and light your favorite scented candle, you might as well make your toys smell good, too, right?

While it may be tempting to spray your toys with your favorite body spray or clean them with scented soaps, it’s actually a bad idea.  Avoid doing this completely, as the chemicals found in smelly soaps and sprays can lead to irritation and even infection.

And both of those things can be a nightmare scenario for both you and your partner to deal with, to say the least.

A good rule of thumb is to stick with anti-bacterial soaps, hot water, and a clean washrag or towel. Don’t try to get too fancy, just be practical and efficient, and you should be good to go.

Avoid the Dishwasher Completely

Did you know that you can wash hats, and other random items, in the dishwasher without damaging them? There are a wide variety of things that aren’t related to food that are dishwasher safe. And cleaning them that way can save a ton of time and energy, which is always a good thing.

With that in mind, there are quite a few sex toys that can also be washed in the dishwasher without being damaged.  And even though this may be true, it’s best to avoid the dishwasher completely, as a lot more can go wrong than right.

The extreme temperatures can melt or affect the shape of your favorite toys. Also, electronic toys can be completely ruined in the dishwasher, which of course, isn’t what you want to happen to something that you paid for.

Again, it can’t be overstated how far you can go with just a bit of hot water and some anti-bacterial soap. And oftentimes, those soaps made for dishwashers have some pretty powerful chemicals in them, which again, can lead to irritation and infection.

So keep it simple and safe and use hot water, anti-bacterial soap, and a sink.

Don’t Be Afraid to Use Boiling Water

The biggest reason that people want to use a dishwasher to clean their toys, besides convenience, is the hot water and the steam. If you’re looking to get this effect, and want to do so in a safer way, try using boiling water.

Before using boiling water to clean your sex toy, you want to make sure that it’s made of a material that is safe to do so with. Toys made from safe materials like stainless steel, silicone, pyrex, in particular, are more than okay to use boiling water on.

It’s worth noting too that, if your toy is motorized, completely submerging them underwater is not a good idea. You can do serious damage to your toys, so avoid mixing too much water with electronic toys to be safe.

Anti-bacterial soap, a little bit of water, and a clean rag or towel is the best way to clean most toys, especially those that you don’t want to get wet fully.

Clean Leather Items Properly

If you have any leather items or toys, you may feel the need to take extra precautions with them, as leather can be a delicate material that needs to be handled correctly. This is 100% true, which is why if you have any leather items, you shouldn’t try to do too much to clean them after use.

Once again, keeping it simple and sticking with hot water, anti-bacterial soap, and a clean rag is without a doubt the best way to go to get the job done.

What about leather cleaners? Are they a good idea?

To keep it short, not really, no. Leather cleaners, like smelly soaps and sprays, contain a lot of chemicals that can cause irritation and infection the next time you use your toy. So with that in mind, it’s a good idea to avoid those completely when cleaning your sex toys.

A Guideline to Cleaning Sex Toys

Well, there you have it! Those are a few basics tips and tricks to keep in mind when cleaning sex toys. So, as long as you keep these ideas in mind, you should remain safe, happy and healthy.

Remember, above all else, don’t avoid cleaning your sex toys completely. Never store away a toy that hasn’t been cleaned, and never use a previously used toy without cleaning it first.

When it comes time to clean your toys, keep it simple and use hot water, anti-bacterial soap, and a clean washrag or towel. You don’t need any fancy chemicals or soaps to get the job done.

If you can, try to buy toys for you and your partner that are the easiest to clean. That way, when it comes time to clean your toys, you’ve got a much easier task on your hands.

Trying to spice up your love life? Looking for some new sex toys for yourself or your partner? Check out our online shop today, we’ll be glad to help you!

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How to spice up your sex life

11/22/2019
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How to spice up your sex life before you get to the bedroom

Every aspect of your relationship is as unique as the two individuals involved. Your communication, likes, dislikes, relatives and sex are completely unique to the two of you. This is a very important consideration when it comes to the point where you want to spice up your sex life. To rekindle the fire in your bedroom therefore requires an understanding of each others personality, an honest assessment of the relationship you have and your current circumstances. Failing to address these three core aspects will only result in short term changes in the sex department regardless of how much kink you bring into the bedroom. 

It has been said that the mind is the most powerful sex organ. Those who appreciate this fact have achieved the highest levels of sexual satisfaction. You therefore need to start with your mind when looking to spice up your sex life. Once that is covered, you are well on your way to what others consider a fairy tale bedroom story. Once you are in the right frame of mind there are a number of things you can do to turn the little sparks that have been in your bedroom into a raging sexual fire.

1. Begin with yourself

While most of the tips on how to spice up your sex life tell you what you can do for your partner, these can only succeed after you have taken care of you. For you to successfully spice things up, you need to focus on what makes you feel sexy. This calls for you to have a sexy state of mind, a sexy state of dress or undress, a sexy environment and a sexy anything else you want. You are fifty percent of the sexual relationship you are working on and that means you are half the solution that is needed to make a difference.  

2. Be assertive

You need to occasionally take charge of things in the sex department. It not only communicates the fact that you are very involved in what is going on, but it also serves as an educative session on things you enjoy doing and being done to you. This is not only in regards to the sexual activities themselves but also has to do with the various other aspects. Ask your partner to dress up in a way that you find sexually attractive, choose where and when to have sex and include the things that are fun and kinky for you. Taking control of your sexual experiences will often result in greater satisfaction for you which in turn makes you more willing to give your partner a similar level of satisfaction.

3. Break the rules and the routine

Rules and routine are the worst excitement killers. If you know what will happen before it starts, there is no way you can get excited about it. Throwing in sexy surprises is a sure way of firing up your sex life. There is always a thrill in doing something that you would not do under normal circumstances. Depending on how far the two of you are willing to go, a few broken rules will go a long way towards making things a lot more interesting for you and your partner. You do not have to go all the way but a few intimate moments can be a great build up towards an awesome sexual encounter. The more creative you can get with your surprises, the better things are going to be.

4. Make sex a priority

With a busy personal, professional and family life, sex can easily become something you do when there is time and energy left after everything else has been done. Prioritizing sex is one of the most important things when you are working to spice up your sex life. It means making time for sex, actively thinking of ways to make it better and ensuring that you are energetic and enthusiastic when going into it. 

5. Work on your relationship

While sex is a big part of your relationship, it is not everything in your relationship. Just as problems with sex affect your relationship, problems in your relationship are bound to affect your sex. If you are constantly working to improve your relationship you will in many ways be working on improving your sex life.

Having covered these fundamental areas, you can then go into the more instant solutions such as shopping for sexy clothing, experimenting with toys and role playing, acting out fantasies and other such things. Combining both the long term and instant solutions is the best way to spice up your sex life.

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Men Who Fear Sex Toys

11/22/2019
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Bringing toys into your boudoir is a fun and exciting way to spice up your love life.  However, some men are apprehensive about using toys, and a few may downright refuse.  Why is this?  And how can you help your man get past this?

Why Men are Afraid of Toys

Usually, the reason is a simple and unsurprising one: they make him feel inadequate.

Many men think that the reason you want to introduce toys to your bedroom is because he alone is not enough to satisfy you.  Although this is likely not the case, it will nonetheless bruise his ego.

There are a few things you can try if your man seems less-than-enthusiastic about trying something new.

Start Slow

Don’t be too insistent that he try using toys.  If you suggest them and he says no, don’t ask again for a few days or weeks.  Trying to force toys into your relationship will only further his feelings that he isn’t satisfying you.

Make It Something Special for Him

Give him his own private peep show.  Tell him he is only allowed to watch while you play with your new toy.  Don’t let him join in until he can no longer stand it!

Try this for a birthday or anniversary present, or even as a “just because.”  Hopefully, this will turn him on and help to change his attitude about toys!

Focus on Him

Don’t concentrate too much on they toys.  Use them for foreplay and to get things heated up, but toss them aside after a short while.  Making him the main focus will help ease any feelings of inadequacy.

Size Matters 

Since his apprehension is likely fueled by feeling that he is not man enough, make sure you don’t choose a toy that reinforces these feelings.  Look for a toy that is smaller than he is.  Knowing that his size isn’t in question will make him feel better about the situation.

When All Else Fails…

You may find that no matter your approach, you man is still not comfortable with the idea of bringing toys into the bedroom.  If this is the case for you, you may have to take no for an answer.  

Rather than potentially destroying the relationship, try something else to spice things up in the bedroom, like new positions or techniques.  Keep your toys tucked away for those times when he is out of town or otherwise not around, and settle for using them solo.

Be patient, be thoughtful, and don’t be too pushy.  Hopefully, these tips will help to ease your man’s anxiety about bringing toys into your love life!

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Over 40 Secrets Of Sexual Potency

How Men Over 40 Can Retain Sexual Potency 

11/16/2019
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How Men Over 40 Can Retain Sexual Potency 

Many men in their teens and 20s tend to think they’ll always be sexually vigorous, but after 40 the penis gradually starts to show the first signs of aging. Some changes — such as loss of penile sensitivity, decrease in size and longer refractory periods — are, for the most part, irreversible. But that doesn’t mean men over 40 are powerless when it comes to retaining their sexual potency and vitality. This article looks at how drinking less alcohol, doing aerobic exercise, eating smarter and keeping an eye on testosterone levels can help maintain a vigorous sex life after 40.

Drink Less Alcohol 

Consuming too much alcohol has a negative effect on the body. It can damage important organs such as the liver and the kidneys, cause several types of cancer, and lead to weight gain. It can also have an adverse effect on the penis, and therefore on sexual enjoyment.

While it is true that in young men moderate alcohol consumption removes inhibitions, temporarily increases libido and delays orgasm (a blessing for those who suffer from premature ejaculation), it can make sex impossible for men over 40. Because erections and orgasms become increasingly unreliable as men age, they need all the help they can get to keep their sensations sharp.

More worrying than temporary erectile dysfunction is the fact that long-term alcohol abuse has at least four damaging effects on the penis. First, alcohol begins to interfere with the nervous system pathways between the brain and the penis; second, it damages the nerves in the penis; third, it has an effect on testosterone levels which are crucial for libido; and fourth, it can damage sperm-producing cells which can cause the testicles to shrink.

Do Aerobic Exercise 

A laboratory experiment involving young and old rats had a clear outcome: rats that were ‘exercised’ more frequently had increased penile neurotransmitters, and therefore improved erections, compared to the rats that were more sedentary.

There’s little reason to believe exercise has a different effect on the human penis. In fact, five studies over a 40-year period and involving 385 men showed aerobic exercise had a ‘significant effect’ on erectile function. The message is clear: if you want your erections to last longer as you age, get on a treadmill as soon as possible.

Eat Smarter 

If you want to stay in shape after 40, you’ll have to do more than you did to lose weight in your 20s and 30s. As you age, your metabolism slows so shedding weight requires far more effort. Diet is important because eating fatty, processed food leads to blood flow problems (in a process known as atherosclerosis — the hardening of the arteries) which, apart from causing heart attacks, mean the penis won’t get unrestricted blood flow in order to keep your erections strong.

Vascular disease is also blamed for the fact that erections become less potent as men age. Between the ages of 30 and 50, many men will notice a slight decline in the angle of their erections (this decline usually accelerates after 50). Research shows that at 30, a man can expect his erection to be 20 degrees above horizontal; by the time he’s 40 that elevation is reduced to only one degree.

In order to stave off vascular disease, many experts recommend a Mediterranean diet incorporating fish, nuts, olive oil and an array of fruits and vegetables. This diet also includes red wine, although only in moderation. Also avoid excessive salt intake, keep an eye your blood pressure, and if you’re a smoker, give up the habit.

Several types of foods have been linked to improved desire. One is asparagus, packed with folate which helps increase the production of desire-boosting histamine in both men and women. Another sex-friendly food is the avocado which contains minerals, monounsaturated fats and Vitamin B6, a known libido-enhancer.

Then there’s the banana, high in the bromelain enzyme which plays a role in regulating sexual hormones. Finally there’s garlic; while this member of the onion family may not provide you with the sweetest breath, it nonetheless contains allicin, a compound that thins the blood and is therefore helpful for blood flow to the penis.?

Watch Your Testosterone Levels 

After a man hits his sexual peak at 30, his testosterone levels start to fall by between 1 and 1.5% a year. This has an important effect on his desire because testosterone is the male sex hormone that controls the development of sexual traits. The results of this cumulative drop may become particularly noticeable after 40.

Falling testosterone takes libido down with it, although the effect varies from man to man. Fortunately, there are ways to counteract the fall in testosterone: get at least seven or eight hours’ sleep per night, maintain muscle mass by weightlifting and eat protein-rich foods such as fish and other white meat.

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How to clean sex toys and vibrators safely | Romantic Depot guide

How to Clean Your Sex Toys Safely

11/08/2019
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How to Clean Your Sex Toys Safely
By Romantic Depot

We all know the benefits of a healthy sex life — from boosting mental and physical wellness to strengthening relationships. One of the best ways to support your sexual well-being, whether solo or with a partner, is by using sex toys. But just like any intimate activity, proper sexual hygiene is crucial. Without it, you risk exposing yourself to infections and irritation. That’s why knowing how to clean sex toys correctly is essential to safe and enjoyable pleasure.

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Keep your favorite pleasure products clean and safe with our spray-on cleanser. Our unique cleansing agent gently cleans and protects, yet it’s mild enough to use every time.

Directions: remove batteries before cleaning battery operated toys. Spray the cleaner over the entire surface area, then wipe with a damp cloth. Rinse thoroughly and dry. This Toy Cleaner is a MUST HAVE for cleaning your toy properly!

We highly recommend buying it to go along with your toy purchase!

That’s why cleaning sex toys properly is so important.

But how exactly do you clean your sex toys in a safe way? Do you need to invest in various sex toy cleaners? And what are the most important tips to keep in mind during the process so both you and your partner can stay happy and healthy?

If you’re asking yourself these kinds of questions, wonder no longer, because we’re here to help! In this article, we’ll give you a basic guideline that you can use to make sure you’re keeping your sex toys clean in a safe and efficient way.

Now then, let’s get started!

Shop with Cleanliness in Mind

When it comes to being hygienic with your sex toys, the process actually starts a lot earlier than you may think. In fact, when you’re shopping for a new sex toy, it’s a good idea to keep cleanliness in mind before making a purchase.

Of course, purchasing items that are easy to clean shouldn’t be your main priority, but it should be something that you seriously consider. The good news? Exciting toys that are made from materials that don’t have any pores, and are therefore the easiest to clean, are easy to find.

Anything made from hard plastic, silicone, elastomer, metal, and glass are all safe bets. So if you find something you like, and it’s made from those materials, you can rest easy knowing that it’s going to be easy to clean.

If you already have a favorite toy that has pores, like something made of jelly, consider covering it with a condom before using it. You’ll be keeping the toy cleaner by doing so, as well as protecting yourself and your partner, which can help prevent any health issues.

Clean Your Toys Before You Store Them

It might sound obvious, but it’s important to note that, in order to be as clean as possible, you should clean all of your toys right after use. By doing this, there isn’t any time for bodily fluids to harden or dry on your toys, and thus, making them harder to get clean.

Obviously stopping to clean a toy can really ruin the mood, so at worst, rinse your toy with clean water a few minutes after use. This will make it much easier to clean the toy when the time comes, and again, it can go a long way in keeping you and your partner healthy.

Regardless of when you clean your toy, it’s important that you do so before storing it away between uses. And it goes without saying, but using a toy that hasn’t been cleaned first isn’t a good idea, and can make both you and your partner sick.

A pro tip? Even if your toy is clean, a quick rinse to remove any dust before applying your favorite lube and using it never hurt anyone.

Avoid Smelly Soaps and Sprays

It’s quite common for both men and women to want to smell good for their partners. And if you’re going to as far as to clean your bed sheets, and light your favorite scented candle, you might as well make your toys smell good, too, right?

While it may be tempting to spray your toys with your favorite body spray or clean them with scented soaps, it’s actually a bad idea.  Avoid doing this completely, as the chemicals found in smelly soaps and sprays can lead to irritation and even infection.

And both of those things can be a nightmare scenario for both you and your partner to deal with, to say the least.

A good rule of thumb is to stick with anti-bacterial soaps, hot water, and a clean washrag or towel. Don’t try to get too fancy, just be practical and efficient, and you should be good to go.

Avoid the Dishwasher Completely

Did you know that you can wash hats, and other random items, in the dishwasher without damaging them? There are a wide variety of things that aren’t related to food that are dishwasher safe. And cleaning them that way can save a ton of time and energy, which is always a good thing.

With that in mind, there are quite a few sex toys that can also be washed in the dishwasher without being damaged.  And even though this may be true, it’s best to avoid the dishwasher completely, as a lot more can go wrong than right.

The extreme temperatures can melt or affect the shape of your favorite toys. Also, electronic toys can be completely ruined in the dishwasher, which of course, isn’t what you want to happen to something that you paid for.

Again, it can’t be overstated how far you can go with just a bit of hot water and some anti-bacterial soap. And oftentimes, those soaps made for dishwashers have some pretty powerful chemicals in them, which again, can lead to irritation and infection.

So keep it simple and safe and use hot water, anti-bacterial soap, and a sink.

Don’t Be Afraid to Use Boiling Water

The biggest reason that people want to use a dishwasher to clean their toys, besides convenience, is the hot water and the steam. If you’re looking to get this effect, and want to do so in a safer way, try using boiling water.

Before using boiling water to clean your sex toy, you want to make sure that it’s made of a material that is safe to do so with. Toys made from safe materials like stainless steel, silicone, pyrex, in particular, are more than okay to use boiling water on.

It’s worth noting too that, if your toy is motorized, completely submerging them underwater is not a good idea. You can do serious damage to your toys, so avoid mixing too much water with electronic toys to be safe.

Anti-bacterial soap, a little bit of water, and a clean rag or towel is the best way to clean most toys, especially those that you don’t want to get wet fully.

Clean Leather Items Properly

If you have any leather items or toys, you may feel the need to take extra precautions with them, as leather can be a delicate material that needs to be handled correctly. This is 100% true, which is why if you have any leather items, you shouldn’t try to do too much to clean them after use.

Once again, keeping it simple and sticking with hot water, anti-bacterial soap, and a clean rag is without a doubt the best way to go to get the job done.

What about leather cleaners? Are they a good idea?

To keep it short, not really, no. Leather cleaners, like smelly soaps and sprays, contain a lot of chemicals that can cause irritation and infection the next time you use your toy. So with that in mind, it’s a good idea to avoid those completely when cleaning your sex toys.

A Guideline to Cleaning Sex Toys

Well, there you have it! Those are a few basics tips and tricks to keep in mind when cleaning sex toys. So, as long as you keep these ideas in mind, you should remain safe, happy and healthy.

Remember, above all else, don’t avoid cleaning your sex toys completely. Never store away a toy that hasn’t been cleaned, and never use a previously used toy without cleaning it first.

When it comes time to clean your toys, keep it simple and use hot water, anti-bacterial soap, and a clean washrag or towel. You don’t need any fancy chemicals or soaps to get the job done.

If you can, try to buy toys for you and your partner that are the easiest to clean. That way, when it comes time to clean your toys, you’ve got a much easier task on your hands.

Trying to spice up your love life? Looking for some new sex toys for yourself or your partner? Check out our online shop today, we’ll be glad to help you!

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Sex Toy Shopping Tips

11/07/2019
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Love And Sex Toys: Tips For Shopping

Whether your relationship is starting to feel stagnant or you just want something to spice up an evening, sex toys can add a playful level of fun to your life. There are now many online stores as well as retail options available, so shopping for these romantic playthings can be done in person or from the comfort of your home. The popularity of these establishments indicates a growing demand for variety and quality in adult entertainment.

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Here are a few tips to remember when delving into the world of sex toys.

1. They’re toys, have fun. Many vibrators and other implements come in an array of bright colors and shapes which might look strangely alien at first. The more you read and observe, the more you’ll start to understand the form and function. If you are fortunate enough to have an adult store near you that carries these items, stop in and touch. Don’t be shy. Pick them up and hold them to observe the weight and feel. If your establishment is really on the ball and has included batteries, turn on vibrators and check the sound. Take a friend or your lover with you and go ahead and laugh.

2.  Start out easy. If this is a new experience, don’t go online and order the Screaming Banshee Deep Penetrating Orgasm Inducer. There are plenty of modest sex toys that won’t leave you scratching your head trying to figure out how to use them or limping in pain the next day. Go with your comfort level and make sure your partner is on board with you.

3.  Don’t buy one that’s bigger than your man. After you start out easy, you might be ready to move to the next level. Sure, it’s nice to have that extra large dildo around for those times you want an all-the-way full experience, but keep this one hidden. Your man might like the thought of you pleasuring yourself, but chances are he wants to be the biggest gun in your cabinet. There are plenty of other toys you can share together.

4.  Keep your goodies safe, clean and hidden. Any item that penetrates a body orifice should be clean, so make sure to wash your toys thoroughly after use. Check them for cracks, rips or tears every time. Have a “toy box” just for these items, and make sure they are well hidden from any prying eyes in your household.

5. Read reviews, ask questions. Most online toy sites have a product review section. Wander through this and if you have a question send an email. Many of these toys are pricey, so make sure you get what you want.

Using sex toys can take a relationship to a more intimate, stimulating level. Couples of all ages are exploring this territory and finding a new way to relate to their partners. Be bold, be innovative, have fun.

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Health benefits of sex

The Health Benefits of Sex

11/07/2019
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Doing Your Body Good:

The Health Benefits of Sex

By J. A. Young

The term sex, especially in the media, conjures up many images, but seldom is this basic human act discussed in terms of health and fitness.  Often sex is often discussed in the news as something lurid or a dangerous activity that people must take precautions for or abstain from.  Of course, there are many aspects of this human activity, but it’s important to understand the physical positive that sex brings to your body.  The following text highlights the health benefits of sex.

Benefits of Sex

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The most basic and, perhaps, the most obvious benefit of sex is the exercise factor.  Burning calories in bed is a great way to shed pounds.  Thirty minutes of sex can help you burn more than eighty calories.  An extremely vigorous session might even allow you to burn up two hundred calories.   It takes 3,500 burnt calories to shed one pound, but those eighty minutes sessions add up.  And, the exercise component of sex is good for your cardiovascular health too.  Some scientific research suggests that men who have sex two times of more during the week can cut their risk of a deadly heart attack in half. 

Got a headache?  Having a headache is no excuse to refrain from sex.  In fact, a bout of sex can actually cure headache pain or relieve the stress causing your headache.  It has been reported in medical journals that sex does relieve stress and can lower blood pressure.  Sex is also a natural way to reduce pain.  During sex, the hormone oxytocin spikes and pain levels drop.  Don’t be surprised if you’ve forgotten all about that headache pain after a bout of sex. 

A surge of oxytocin is also a great benefit for people suffering from insomnia.  The higher oxytocin level in the body is associated with good sleep.  Getting adequate sleep on a regular basis is necessary to maintain optimum health.  Sex is, therefore, linked to regular sleep patterns.  The relaxation element after sex is a natural way for typically highly motivated people to calm down after a long day.

A healthy sex life is also linked to a healthier immune system.  Doing it only once or twice a week can actually help you ward off infections like the common cold by boosting your body’s levels of antibodies.  These findings have been backed by medical studies and are great news for people who enjoy sex.   

Regular ejaculation has been linked to a reduced instance of prostate cancer in men.  This is an important benefit of sex that is supported by the scientific community.  As the body makes semen, it concentrates levels of zinc, potassium, and citric acid and ejects them from the body.  If cancer cells are present, they, as well, are concentrated and released from the body.  Consequently, regular ejaculation of semen can be a way of ridding the male’s body of some unwanted elements. 

In some scenarios this would be a controversial behavior, but having sex without a condom has actually been linked to depression reduction in women.  A crazy benefit it may be, but a study in 2002 suggested that a hormone within semen is absorbed by the female and acts as a modulating or regulating substance.  Sex without condoms has been shown to help keep a woman’s hormones balanced and her depression in check.  Because of the increased risks of having sex without a condom for many, this benefit is generally left unsaid, but the benefit remains and those who are able to forgo the condom may see happy results. 

Of course, a healthy sex life can lead to a feeling self-confidence and happiness for both men and women.  Feeling good emotionally can lead to greater health benefits.  A poor sex life or no sex life can trigger depression or contribute to a person’s negative sense of self.  A fulfilling sex life can play a key role in the good health of a steady relationship and the mutual good feeling can help sustain the other health benefits of sex.

Another weird health benefit of an overtly sexual act can improve your smile.  That is, teeth have been shown to benefit from semen.  Minerals, zinc, and calcium within semen can reduce tooth decay.  A healthy set of teeth is just one more benefit that intimacy can safeguard. 

And finally, it might not seem like much, but sex can even benefit a person’s sense of smell.  Sex causes prolactin levels to rise in the body.  Prolactin is a hormone.  This surge is associated with increased stem cell development in the brain.  The newly created neurons benefit the brain’s olfactory center making you a better sniffer. 

Regular intimacy—cuddling, hugging, touching—along with intercourse can promote mutual healing and provide many health benefits.  The fact that intimacy feels good is good for your health.  Science has demonstrated that the sense of touch is important to maintain good health.  Of course, it is important to take precautions—dangerous sexually-related infections and disease can cancel out the great health benefits of sex.  But, as humans are sexual creatures, it should be no surprise that sex (after all risk factors are protected against) is really good for you.

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Bondage For Beginners

10/31/2019
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Bondage For Beginners!

By Terry Mancour

When you think of “kinky”, often the first thing that pops into your head is the image of whips and chains, pain and pleasure . . . and some guy with a cheesy 70s pornstar mustache.  But erotic bondage and discipline is both far more common and far less extreme than most people think.  Millions of couples have incorporated light bondage and fantasy discipline into their every-day sex lives without going to extremes.  Once the practice is understood for what it is – and what it isn’t – then incorporating this kind of fantasy sex into your life is a great way to inject some passion and intensity into your relationship.

Restraints

Erotic bondage is, quite simply, the use of restraints on one partner during sex to suggest a loss of control that many find exciting.  Control games such as tying up or blindfolding your partner can be highly stimulating – some lovers who have a hard time reaching orgasm because of control issues find it far easier to do so once they have abandoned themselves to a light bondage scenario.  The restraints, as nominal as they might be, give them permission to relax and “let go” for their lover.  Of course there are degrees of bondage play, from a simple binding of hands with a silk tie or pantyhose, through the use of light handcuffs or Velcro bindings, all the way up to rather extreme full-body suits that provide a sense of immobility that only a seasoned bondage enthusiast is usually comfortable with.

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Hand in hand with erotic bondage is BDSM – “Bondage & Discipline/Sado-Masochism” – the “whips” part of “whips and chains”.  While this aspect might be as daunting to some as bondage is to others, the safe and controlled fantasy power-plays between lovers can inspire great depths of passion, sexual exploration, and mind-numbing orgasms when just the right balance of pain and pleasure is achieved.  

Pain And Pleasure

While some are leery of mixing pain with pleasure, the two are naturally combined.  The same nerve cells on our skin that register a gentle caress become excited and super-sensitive when a little pain is provided.  The purpose of BDSM play is not to injure the recipient of the playful spanking, of course, or even cause a lot of pain – merely to excite and sensitize the flesh to achieve greater responsiveness and orgasm.  

Most beginners in BDSM confine themselves to a light spanking, with hand, small whip or paddle, often followed with tiny caresses that can inspire tremendous erotic sensation.  Of course many of us have fantasies of control that include pain and spanking – naughty schoolgirl/boy, “French Maid”, boss/secretary, master/slave girl and other erotic role-playing games incorporating some degree of BDSM are highly popular as our culture grows more sexually sophisticated.  Accessories to compliment these fantasies are widely available, from paddles, whips, and other “spanking implements” to costumes appropriate to any fantasy.  

Sex Play Rules

But even the novice BDSM enthusiast needs to remember a few key rules to restraints and sex play.  First there is the “safe word” – a mutually-agreed-upon word unlikely to come up in the scene (“umbrella” or “pickle” are popular) which, when spoken by either party, indicates that someone is feeling uncomfortable with the scenario and wants to stop.  Agreeing to a safe word is vital to fostering the sense of trust necessary to have a truly enjoyable BDSM experience.

Another mistake some novices make in their enthusiasm is introducing too many BDSM elements into their sex lives too quickly.  Not only can a mountain of whips and handcuffs be intimidating to a partner new to the practice, but trying to incorporate too much too soon can put a strain on the relationship and lead to a disappointing experience.  Try introducing one or two elements at a time, and add to them as you and your partner decide which things you found enjoyable.  Usually starting with a simple blindfold and an easily-escapable bondage rig – tying your mate’s hands loosely to the bedposts with a couple of old ties or Velcro restraints, for example – is enough of a start to get you and your partner comfortable with the idea.  After that, explore your fantasies with expansions of your bondage gear gradually.

An important consideration is how tightly you bind your partner (or wish to be bound yourself.)  Many novice BDSM enthusiasts make the mistake of thinking that the best way to begin is by tightly immobilizing their partner to the point where escape on their own is difficult or impossible.  While it’s true that a loss of control is implicit in the BDSM experience, it’s also important to remember that a novice is going to be nervous about that loss of control and might panic when faced with true immobility.  Usually the simple illusion of immobility is quite enough to convince someone to abandon their sense of control – once they are satisfied that they can escape at will if they get uncomfortable.  Lightly-restricting bondage gear with quick-release fasteners is usually perfectly adequate for a beginner’s BDSM experience.  

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The Safest Sex Toy Materials

10/24/2019
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The Safest Sex Toy Materials

By Nicole Martinez

Although most sex toy manufacturers and retailers are quick to highlight the features of their products — how many times have you seen the “Waterproof” logo or wondered just how many vibration patterns a toy actually needs? — you should also pay attention to the material of sex toys. While it’s true that higher quality vibrators and dildos may have a higher initial investment, some materials are simply safer and healthier. If money is your bottom line, consider that safer materials also tend to need less replacing; thus, you may be saving money in the long run, when you purchase a sex toy made of safe materials.

Generally speaking, the safest materials are those that are non-porous or have a low porosity. Porous materials, like traditional jelly toys, have tiny holes that can harbor bacteria, even when your sex toy is physically clean. Most people disinfect items and surfaces in their home, even if those items come nowhere near the orifices of the body so why wouldn’t you want the same for your sex toy? Non-porous toys may also leak chemicals or oils, have a strong, unpleasant odor and can leech colors from other toys.

The following toys are completely non-pourous, when the entire toy is one piece. You can not only clean these materials with soap and water, but you can boil them for three minutes or treat them with the same bleach recipe that you would use to clean baby toys or bottles to disinfect. Toys without moving parts are safe to sanitize on the top shelf of your dishwasher, in a cycle without detergent. Note that many toys use a combination of materials. Any toy that has a seam offers a place for dirt and grime to hide, just like grout between tiles, even if the materials are all non-pores.

Silicone

Manufacturers such as Tantus have always crafted high-quality silicone products. Silicone ranges from rock-hard to lifelike, if you purchase Tantu’s SuperSoft dildos or a VikSkin piece from Vixen.  Big name companies like California Exotics now also produce a variety of silicone toys. However, companies can label their toys as silicone if they only contain 10% silicone. Be wary of silicone composites such as TPR Silicone because these are somewhat porous. Silicone should have no scent or taste and, most importantly, you can flame test it with a lighter. Pure silicone will not melt in temperatures lower than 600-degrees Fahrenheit; however, the flame test may leave a temporary smudge.

Glass

Glass may seem like an odd material for a sex toy at first but many people love its rigidity for hitting the right spot without a lot of force. It’s incredibly easy to feel the textures of glass sex toys and you can even apply cool or warm water for temperature play –never put the toy in the freeze or microwave as this can weaken the glass. Phallix is especially known for its glass dildos and some even include 24-karat gold.

Rest assured that your glass dildo will not break or even splinter aside of you; however, you may want to take care to store it in a padded pouch and to hold it securely when washing. Glass is especially easy to clean because it is so slick. For this reason, you can also use glass vibrators and dildos with less lubricant than you might need with other materials.

Metal

Metal sex toys, like the anal plugs and dildos from manufacturer Njoy, are rigid like glass but much heavier. Because of this, you may want to thrust more gently to avoid hitting your cervix or other sensitive parts and you want to avoid hitting your sink or dropping them on tile floors as you can damage your home. However, metal toys offer the benefit of being non-porous as well as responsive to temperature changes. 

Acrylics, Ceramics and Wood

Acrylic, ceramic and wood sex toys are not as common as silicone or even glass but consumers enjoy them because they offer hardness without the added weight. These materials may be non-porous; however, you should take care when cleaning them, For example, acrylic and ceramic dildos can scratch and you should not submerge wood because the moisture can allow mold to grow in your sex toys.  Stick to soap and water cleaning.

Ceramic vibrators and dildos are crafted, painted and then treated with a tough glaze that makes them non-porous and difficult to scratch. Ceramics come in every color of the rainbow and the glaze allows your ceramic sex toy to be painted with interesting designs like the dildos and vibrators from Lovemoiselle. Charles Duncan designs bright red and black ceramic pieces with unique shapes.

Acrylics, on the other hand, are a hard, synthetic plastic polymer. Acrylic dildos are translucent or transparent and often clear. However, you may find translucent acrylic sex toys with a hint of color, such as blue or pink.

Wood sex toys, like ceramic, are shaped and treated with a glaze, similar to a wooden salad bowl, that makes them healthy and safe. This safe treatment prevents the wood from splintering. Wood is quite light in comparison to other materials. Check out the dildo and anal toys from toy company Nobessence.

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