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How to Revive Your Relationship’s Spark

January 4, 2020
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Visit A Sex Store Near You

Couples communication is essential whether you’re at the beginning or you’ve been together long enough to order for the other.

We challenge ever couple to visit a sex shop near you, together!  Walk around and look at the different toys and talk to each other about fantasies and desires.

Often the place you’re at affects what you feel comfortable sharing.  Sex is an essential part of any romantic relationship.  Dr. Ruth, a sex therapist, noted that a bad sex life becomes the biggest thing in a relationship but good sex allows other things to become the biggest part of a relationship.

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By William Mwangi

According to the U.S. National Center for Health Statistics, there were more than 700,000 divorce cases in 2017, and the number has been rising exponentially. Without a doubt, the high number of separations is a testament to the hurts and wounds that relationships are sustaining both in America and across the globe.

The article will enlighten you on what marriage and relationships therapists are saying about rekindling the fire of your relationship.

1. Communicate Frequently and Effectively

There are only three rules to successful relationships. These are:
– Communication
– Communication
– Communication
Most relationships turn sour because of poor or lack of communication. Effective communication, in contrast, enhances your connectivity with your partner and helps you exude positive emotions that strengthen your relationship’s bonds.

In addition, good communication enables you to address issues in your relationship clearly and in a non-judgmental manner, minimizing possibilities of conflicts and confusions.

2. Listen Actively

Active listening is as crucial as effective communication. M. Scott Peck, a renowned American psychiatrist, contended that it is not possible to fully listen while doing something else. To listen to your partner effectively, focus on what he/she is saying without daydreaming, desist from planning your response ahead of time, and be genuinely interested in what your partner is saying.

3. Ask! Don’t Assume

The “I thought…” has crippled many relationships, both new and long-term.

When in doubt of something, have the courage to ask for clarification instead of relying on assumptions. Sometimes (most times) your assumptions will be inaccurate, causing you to hurt the feelings/perceptions of your partner.

Avoid assumptions as much as possible because they impair understanding, dent communication, and ignite unreasonable conflicts in your relationship.

4. Redo What Made You Fall in Love in the First Place

The activities that you stopped doing could be the culprits for your depressing love life. To rekindle your relationship’s fire, make a list of the crazy things you used to do together after falling in love.

These things could be going out on Friday nights, preparing exquisite meals together, or playing video games on your laptop. Besides reviving your relationship’s spark and excitement, these activities make you fall in love again and again.

5. Compliment Your Partner but Don’t Overdo it

What gasoline is to vehicles is what compliments are to relationships. Compliments motivate your partner, foster a solid trust, and spice up your romance life. Dare to throw a genuine compliment to your partner when she buys a beautiful dress, when he gets a good hair cut, or when he perfectly matches his fashionable outfit.

6. Put Your Phone Down

Recent studies conducted on human interactions have unveiled that technology, especially the use of mobile phones, has drastically led to an increase in separation and divorce cases. Putting your phone down or turning it off eliminates the element of distraction, allowing you to engage in a deep and meaningful conversation with your partner. In effect, you will narrow your emotional distance and enjoy an enriching relationship.

Do you want to start enjoying your relationship with a whole new level of desire? Communicate effectively, listen attentively, avoid assumptions, start doing the things you did after falling in love, frequently compliment your partner, and minimize interactions with your phone.

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The Top Tips to Remember When Cleaning Sex Toys

December 26, 2019
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The Top Tips to Remember When Cleaning Sex Toys

 

We’re all aware of the various benefits a healthy sex life can bring to us. From improved mental and physical health to strengthing our relationships with our partners, it can’t be overstated how important being sexually active is for us as adult human beings.

One of the best ways to practice a healthy sexual lifestyle, either alone or with a partner, is to introduce sex toys into the equation. But like every other sexual activity, without taking sexual hygiene into consideration, you can subject yourself to some serious health risks.

That’s why cleaning sex toys properly is so important.

But how exactly do you clean your sex toys in a safe way? Do you need to invest in various sex toy cleaners? And what are the most important tips to keep in mind during the process so both you and your partner can stay happy and healthy?

If you’re asking yourself these kinds of questions, wonder no longer, because we’re here to help! In this article, we’ll give you a basic guideline that you can use to make sure you’re keeping your sex toys clean in a safe and efficient way.

Now then, let’s get started!

Shop with Cleanliness in Mind

When it comes to being hygienic with your sex toys, the process actually starts a lot earlier than you may think. In fact, when you’re shopping for a new sex toy, it’s a good idea to keep cleanliness in mind before making a purchase.

Of course, purchasing items that are easy to clean shouldn’t be your main priority, but it should be something that you seriously consider. The good news? Exciting toys that are made from materials that don’t have any pores, and are therefore the easiest to clean, are easy to find.

Anything made from hard plastic, silicone, elastomer, metal, and glass are all safe bets. So if you find something you like, and it’s made from those materials, you can rest easy knowing that it’s going to be easy to clean.

If you already have a favorite toy that has pores, like something made of jelly, consider covering it with a condom before using it. You’ll be keeping the toy cleaner by doing so, as well as protecting yourself and your partner, which can help prevent any health issues.

Clean Your Toys Before You Store Them

It might sound obvious, but it’s important to note that, in order to be as clean as possible, you should clean all of your toys right after use. By doing this, there isn’t any time for bodily fluids to harden or dry on your toys, and thus, making them harder to get clean.

Obviously stopping to clean a toy can really ruin the mood, so at worst, rinse your toy with clean water a few minutes after use. This will make it much easier to clean the toy when the time comes, and again, it can go a long way in keeping you and your partner healthy.

Regardless of when you clean your toy, it’s important that you do so before storing it away between uses. And it goes without saying, but using a toy that hasn’t been cleaned first isn’t a good idea, and can make both you and your partner sick.

A pro tip? Even if your toy is clean, a quick rinse to remove any dust before applying your favorite lube and using it never hurt anyone.

Avoid Smelly Soaps and Sprays

It’s quite common for both men and women to want to smell good for their partners. And if you’re going to as far as to clean your bed sheets, and light your favorite scented candle, you might as well make your toys smell good, too, right?

While it may be tempting to spray your toys with your favorite body spray or clean them with scented soaps, it’s actually a bad idea.  Avoid doing this completely, as the chemicals found in smelly soaps and sprays can lead to irritation and even infection.

And both of those things can be a nightmare scenario for both you and your partner to deal with, to say the least.

A good rule of thumb is to stick with anti-bacterial soaps, hot water, and a clean washrag or towel. Don’t try to get too fancy, just be practical and efficient, and you should be good to go.

Avoid the Dishwasher Completely

Did you know that you can wash hats, and other random items, in the dishwasher without damaging them? There are a wide variety of things that aren’t related to food that are dishwasher safe. And cleaning them that way can save a ton of time and energy, which is always a good thing.

With that in mind, there are quite a few sex toys that can also be washed in the dishwasher without being damaged.  And even though this may be true, it’s best to avoid the dishwasher completely, as a lot more can go wrong than right.

The extreme temperatures can melt or affect the shape of your favorite toys. Also, electronic toys can be completely ruined in the dishwasher, which of course, isn’t what you want to happen to something that you paid for.

Again, it can’t be overstated how far you can go with just a bit of hot water and some anti-bacterial soap. And oftentimes, those soaps made for dishwashers have some pretty powerful chemicals in them, which again, can lead to irritation and infection.

So keep it simple and safe and use hot water, anti-bacterial soap, and a sink.

Don’t Be Afraid to Use Boiling Water

The biggest reason that people want to use a dishwasher to clean their toys, besides convenience, is the hot water and the steam. If you’re looking to get this effect, and want to do so in a safer way, try using boiling water.

Before using boiling water to clean your sex toy, you want to make sure that it’s made of a material that is safe to do so with. Toys made from safe materials like stainless steel, silicone, pyrex, in particular, are more than okay to use boiling water on.

It’s worth noting too that, if your toy is motorized, completely submerging them underwater is not a good idea. You can do serious damage to your toys, so avoid mixing too much water with electronic toys to be safe.

Anti-bacterial soap, a little bit of water, and a clean rag or towel is the best way to clean most toys, especially those that you don’t want to get wet fully.

Clean Leather Items Properly

If you have any leather items or toys, you may feel the need to take extra precautions with them, as leather can be a delicate material that needs to be handled correctly. This is 100% true, which is why if you have any leather items, you shouldn’t try to do too much to clean them after use.

Once again, keeping it simple and sticking with hot water, anti-bacterial soap, and a clean rag is without a doubt the best way to go to get the job done.

What about leather cleaners? Are they a good idea?

To keep it short, not really, no. Leather cleaners, like smelly soaps and sprays, contain a lot of chemicals that can cause irritation and infection the next time you use your toy. So with that in mind, it’s a good idea to avoid those completely when cleaning your sex toys.

A Guideline to Cleaning Sex Toys

Well, there you have it! Those are a few basics tips and tricks to keep in mind when cleaning sex toys. So, as long as you keep these ideas in mind, you should remain safe, happy and healthy.

Remember, above all else, don’t avoid cleaning your sex toys completely. Never store away a toy that hasn’t been cleaned, and never use a previously used toy without cleaning it first.

When it comes time to clean your toys, keep it simple and use hot water, anti-bacterial soap, and a clean washrag or towel. You don’t need any fancy chemicals or soaps to get the job done.

If you can, try to buy toys for you and your partner that are the easiest to clean. That way, when it comes time to clean your toys, you’ve got a much easier task on your hands.

Trying to spice up your love life? Looking for some new sex toys for yourself or your partner? Check out our online shop today, we’ll be glad to help you!

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How to spice up your sex life

November 22, 2019
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How to spice up your sex life before you get to the bedroom

Every aspect of your relationship is as unique as the two individuals involved. Your communication, likes, dislikes, relatives and sex are completely unique to the two of you. This is a very important consideration when it comes to the point where you want to spice up your sex life. To rekindle the fire in your bedroom therefore requires an understanding of each others personality, an honest assessment of the relationship you have and your current circumstances. Failing to address these three core aspects will only result in short term changes in the sex department regardless of how much kink you bring into the bedroom. 

It has been said that the mind is the most powerful sex organ. Those who appreciate this fact have achieved the highest levels of sexual satisfaction. You therefore need to start with your mind when looking to spice up your sex life. Once that is covered, you are well on your way to what others consider a fairy tale bedroom story. Once you are in the right frame of mind there are a number of things you can do to turn the little sparks that have been in your bedroom into a raging sexual fire.

1. Begin with yourself

While most of the tips on how to spice up your sex life tell you what you can do for your partner, these can only succeed after you have taken care of you. For you to successfully spice things up, you need to focus on what makes you feel sexy. This calls for you to have a sexy state of mind, a sexy state of dress or undress, a sexy environment and a sexy anything else you want. You are fifty percent of the sexual relationship you are working on and that means you are half the solution that is needed to make a difference.  

2. Be assertive

You need to occasionally take charge of things in the sex department. It not only communicates the fact that you are very involved in what is going on, but it also serves as an educative session on things you enjoy doing and being done to you. This is not only in regards to the sexual activities themselves but also has to do with the various other aspects. Ask your partner to dress up in a way that you find sexually attractive, choose where and when to have sex and include the things that are fun and kinky for you. Taking control of your sexual experiences will often result in greater satisfaction for you which in turn makes you more willing to give your partner a similar level of satisfaction.

3. Break the rules and the routine

Rules and routine are the worst excitement killers. If you know what will happen before it starts, there is no way you can get excited about it. Throwing in sexy surprises is a sure way of firing up your sex life. There is always a thrill in doing something that you would not do under normal circumstances. Depending on how far the two of you are willing to go, a few broken rules will go a long way towards making things a lot more interesting for you and your partner. You do not have to go all the way but a few intimate moments can be a great build up towards an awesome sexual encounter. The more creative you can get with your surprises, the better things are going to be.

4. Make sex a priority

With a busy personal, professional and family life, sex can easily become something you do when there is time and energy left after everything else has been done. Prioritizing sex is one of the most important things when you are working to spice up your sex life. It means making time for sex, actively thinking of ways to make it better and ensuring that you are energetic and enthusiastic when going into it. 

5. Work on your relationship

While sex is a big part of your relationship, it is not everything in your relationship. Just as problems with sex affect your relationship, problems in your relationship are bound to affect your sex. If you are constantly working to improve your relationship you will in many ways be working on improving your sex life.

Having covered these fundamental areas, you can then go into the more instant solutions such as shopping for sexy clothing, experimenting with toys and role playing, acting out fantasies and other such things. Combining both the long term and instant solutions is the best way to spice up your sex life.

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Men Who Fear Sex Toys

November 22, 2019
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Bringing toys into your boudoir is a fun and exciting way to spice up your love life.  However, some men are apprehensive about using toys, and a few may downright refuse.  Why is this?  And how can you help your man get past this?

Why Men are Afraid of Toys

Usually, the reason is a simple and unsurprising one: they make him feel inadequate.

Many men think that the reason you want to introduce toys to your bedroom is because he alone is not enough to satisfy you.  Although this is likely not the case, it will nonetheless bruise his ego.

There are a few things you can try if your man seems less-than-enthusiastic about trying something new.

Start Slow

Don’t be too insistent that he try using toys.  If you suggest them and he says no, don’t ask again for a few days or weeks.  Trying to force toys into your relationship will only further his feelings that he isn’t satisfying you.

Make It Something Special for Him

Give him his own private peep show.  Tell him he is only allowed to watch while you play with your new toy.  Don’t let him join in until he can no longer stand it!

Try this for a birthday or anniversary present, or even as a “just because.”  Hopefully, this will turn him on and help to change his attitude about toys!

Focus on Him

Don’t concentrate too much on they toys.  Use them for foreplay and to get things heated up, but toss them aside after a short while.  Making him the main focus will help ease any feelings of inadequacy.

Size Matters 

Since his apprehension is likely fueled by feeling that he is not man enough, make sure you don’t choose a toy that reinforces these feelings.  Look for a toy that is smaller than he is.  Knowing that his size isn’t in question will make him feel better about the situation.

When All Else Fails…

You may find that no matter your approach, you man is still not comfortable with the idea of bringing toys into the bedroom.  If this is the case for you, you may have to take no for an answer.  

Rather than potentially destroying the relationship, try something else to spice things up in the bedroom, like new positions or techniques.  Keep your toys tucked away for those times when he is out of town or otherwise not around, and settle for using them solo.

Be patient, be thoughtful, and don’t be too pushy.  Hopefully, these tips will help to ease your man’s anxiety about bringing toys into your love life!

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Sex Toy Shopping Tips

November 7, 2019
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Love And Sex Toys: Tips For Shopping

Whether your relationship is starting to feel stagnant or you just want something to spice up an evening, sex toys can add a playful level of fun to your life. There are now many online stores as well as retail options available, so shopping for these romantic playthings can be done in person or from the comfort of your home. The popularity of these establishments indicates a growing demand for variety and quality in adult entertainment.

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Here are a few tips to remember when delving into the world of sex toys.

1. They’re toys, have fun. Many vibrators and other implements come in an array of bright colors and shapes which might look strangely alien at first. The more you read and observe, the more you’ll start to understand the form and function. If you are fortunate enough to have an adult store near you that carries these items, stop in and touch. Don’t be shy. Pick them up and hold them to observe the weight and feel. If your establishment is really on the ball and has included batteries, turn on vibrators and check the sound. Take a friend or your lover with you and go ahead and laugh.

2.  Start out easy. If this is a new experience, don’t go online and order the Screaming Banshee Deep Penetrating Orgasm Inducer. There are plenty of modest sex toys that won’t leave you scratching your head trying to figure out how to use them or limping in pain the next day. Go with your comfort level and make sure your partner is on board with you.

3.  Don’t buy one that’s bigger than your man. After you start out easy, you might be ready to move to the next level. Sure, it’s nice to have that extra large dildo around for those times you want an all-the-way full experience, but keep this one hidden. Your man might like the thought of you pleasuring yourself, but chances are he wants to be the biggest gun in your cabinet. There are plenty of other toys you can share together.

4.  Keep your goodies safe, clean and hidden. Any item that penetrates a body orifice should be clean, so make sure to wash your toys thoroughly after use. Check them for cracks, rips or tears every time. Have a “toy box” just for these items, and make sure they are well hidden from any prying eyes in your household.

5. Read reviews, ask questions. Most online toy sites have a product review section. Wander through this and if you have a question send an email. Many of these toys are pricey, so make sure you get what you want.

Using sex toys can take a relationship to a more intimate, stimulating level. Couples of all ages are exploring this territory and finding a new way to relate to their partners. Be bold, be innovative, have fun.

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Couples Sex Advice Eight Tips That Will Help You to Overcome a Dry Spell in Your Marriage

October 24, 2019
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Couples Sex Advice: Eight Tips That Will Help You to Overcome a Dry Spell in Your Marriage

By Dr. E. C. Gordon

The claim that a married sex life is necessarily repetitive or stale is an inaccurate cliché. If you and your spouse are finding physical intimacy to be unsatisfying in its nature or frequency, you do not simply need to accept that this is how things will continue to be. Read on to discover the eight most effective and straightforward things that you can do in order to overcome a sexual dry spell in your marriage, and learn how to make married sex hot, fun and passionate once again.

1) Don’t let your sex life cause depression or anxiety:

It is vital to remember that almost all couples experience periods of diminished sexual desire or satisfaction. Even people who are deeply in love and sexually open-minded can still find their sex lives destroyed by stress, family responsibilities or health problems. It is also common to have a temporarily reduced libido and be entirely unsure of the cause, even when you are still extremely attracted to your partner. Problems in the bedroom do not have to indicate that the marriage is destined to fail, and they are not indications that a good sex life is a thing of the past. In addition, it is important that you not be fooled by popular claims about how much sex is healthy, or how much sex a married couple ‘needs’ to have. Such claims only cause doubt and insecurity, and they are deeply misleading because what is healthy or necessary varies greatly from one relationship to another. With these thoughts in mind, it will be easier for you to avoid panicking or becoming extremely distraught in response to a dry spell in your marriage. If you can stay calm and keep thinking in a productive way, it will be a lot easier to improve your sex life with your spouse. A relaxed attitude to intimacy more easily leads to fun, uninhibited experimentation, while believing that your physical relationship is doomed usually ends up contaminating your everyday interactions as well.

2) Encourage open and honest communication about sex:

Although sex is becoming increasingly less taboo as a topic of conversation, some married couples still feel too uncomfortable and apprehensive to instigate a sober and direct conversation about their sex lives. However, studies repeatedly show that people who frequently discuss their sexual needs and desires tend to be much more likely to describe their sex lives as satisfying and enjoyable. If you are going to move past a dry spell in your marriage, it is important to be able to give each other suggestions regarding what would make physical intimacy more enjoyable for you. Is there a new way you would like to be touched? Do you want to learn what frequency of sex would be ideal for your spouse? These sorts of questions can help to restructure your sex life in a way that pleases you both, and you will also find that discussing what turns you on can be instrumental in spiking levels of desire. It is exciting to hear about what your partner likes most about you and your sexual prowess, and it can also be thrilling to confess to some fantasies that you have hitherto kept secret.

3) Adopt an open-minded approach to trying new things in your sex life:

After years of having sex, married couples often fall into a minimally enjoyable and practical routine when it comes to making love. While this is better than having no sex life at all, it can become a dull or empty experience for one or both parties. In spite of this, you may be hesitant and uncomfortable at the thought of changing your routine. You may worry about your partner laughing at your new ideas, or fear that you will develop stage fright in the face of attempting a new technique in bed. One way to get around this intimidating roadblock is to agree to write a list of things that you want to think about trying. Once you and your spouse have worked out what should be on such a list, you can sit down and talk about what seems most appealing (and remember that you are not obligated to actually show your partner the list). If even this approach sounds too daunting, try browsing the internet to find checklists of sexual ideas. This is an excellent way to discover which things you want to try out or discount, and some of the items on this checklist may spark result in entirely new ideas of your own. In addition, most couples can find a lot of humor in this activity, as few are drawn to the most extreme options.

4) Try to make bedtime more conducive to sexual intimacy:

First, it is important that you be able to feel attracted to your spouse regardless of whether they are wearing a sexy outfit or an old t-shirt. However, you are unlikely to consistently burn with lust if you see your partner in an ill-fitting pajama set every time you go to bed. If one or both of you stop putting in effort when it comes to dressing for bed, this can unfortunately have an adverse influence on the level of sexual desire and chemistry that exists between you. Bear in mind that neither of you need to squeeze into fetish wear in order to make going to bed more conducive to sex; simply going to bed in your underwear (or nothing at all) can set your spouse’s pulse racing.

5) Remember that there are important sexual benefits that come with marriage:

While you might fall into the trap of thinking that life would be more fun if you had multiple new partners on a regular basis or were just starting to have sex with a new love, don’t forget that married couples get to enjoy many benefits that are lacked in such circumstances. For one thing, you know that if something goes wrong in the bedroom then this one bad performance won’t shake your partner’s commitment or make them reconsider being with you. In addition, when you are with someone who knows you well and is committed to loving you, there is more freedom to be honest about certain sexual fantasies and activities that you would like to explore. Finally, knowing one another’s bodies as well as you do means that when making love goes well it can be profoundly satisfying in a way that a one night stand or a sex session with a new person seldom turns out to be.

6) Realize that sexual problems can infect other areas of your marriage:

If you are struggling to find the courage to talk to your spouse about your sex life concerns, one thing that might motivate you is the knowledge that a bad sex life seldom remains insolated. It almost always causes further interpersonal problems. In contrast, better physical intimacy usually improves your emotional connection with your partner, so it is well worth having a frank discussion about your sex life. As your sex life gets better, so will everyday aspects of your marriage, and in response to these interpersonal improvements the sex is likely to improve even more.

7) Do not assume that you already know everything about your partner’s body:

When you have been married for years or decades, it is all too easy to believe that you must have already learned everything that there is to know about your spouse’s erogenous zones and sexual responses. In truth, there is always more to learn, and abandoning the mistaken assumption that you know it all can lead to newly heightened sexual creativity. Each person is different when it comes to which areas feel best when stimulated, so try exploring new parts of your partner’s body during foreplay (either with your hands or your mouth). Some people love to be softly kissed on the back, while others experience shivers of pleasure when the sensitive skin of the scalp is stroked. Giving or receiving a full-body massage is also an enjoyable and relaxing way to learn about surprisingly pleasurable or arousing areas of the body. Constantly trying to find new sensitive spots and experimenting with new ways of stimulating the confirmed erogenous zones helps to stop sex from being a predictable, businesslike affair.

8) Work to make your bedroom a place associated with sexual intimacy:

It is important to be able to see your bedroom as place in which you can enjoy freedom and relaxation away from your daily obligations. Often, this will mean making sure that it is free from children and pets, especially since it seems that these family members are particularly prone to bursting in at the exact moment that you and your spouse are becoming amorous. While any children you have should feel free to knock on your door for attention if they need help or assistance, your sex life will improve if your children do not enter the room without permission.

If you keep the above tips in mind, then with a little time and effort you should be able to overcome a dry spell in your marriage. However, it is important to note that all is not lost if you and your spouse still find that you are struggling. Some couples counselors specialize in sexual therapy, and they may be able to get to the heart of why your sex life remains so unsatisfying.

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Seven Sensual Ways to Improve Your Sex Life

October 24, 2019
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Seven Sensual Ways to Improve Your Sex Life

By Dr E. C. Gordon


When you have been in a relationship for years or even decades, your sex life often becomes something of a routine. Once you have learned about the things that your partner enjoys, it is tempting to just repeat these specific acts. After all, they are successful, and trying new things comes with the possibility of failure. However, once sex becomes predictable then it starts to become merely pleasant as opposed to passionate, and from there it can easily become boring. In addition, couples often become rather lazy about sex as the years wear on, all but eliminating foreplay or allowing it to turn into a cursory process. Read on to learn about seven ways to add some sensuality to your sex life and improve your relationship in the process.

1) Make foreplay last much longer:
A lot of couples will simply kiss for a few minutes before moving on to intercourse, or pay lip service to the idea of foreplay by briefly caressing each other before getting undressed. However, if you do this then you are missing out on a lot of intimacy and on the chance to make the sex itself more intense. Firstly, sex without foreplay can be quite impersonal and can sometime makes one or both of you feel somewhat ‘used’. On the other hand, taking the time to really explore your partner’s body with your hands and mouth will make them feel strongly desired, and being treated this way in return will create the same feelings in you. Secondly, if foreplay is drawn out then the anticipation will make you both much more lustful. This is likely to make you much more enthusiastic when you eventually make love, and equally likely to increase the level of satisfaction that you feel at the end of the night.

2) Experiment with using a blindfold:
When you are blindfolded, all of your other senses are heightened. This means that you are likely to experience more sexual pleasure. In addition, you will enjoy the excitement of wondering when and where your partner’s next touch will come. Wearing a blindfold during foreplay or sex is also a great way to cautiously experiment with being submissive to you partner, and the lack of control that you have over the situation can be thrilling. Next time, trade places and be the one to blindfold your partner.

3) Learn how to give each other a thorough massage:
A massage creates deep relaxation and the sort of intimacy that leads to better lovemaking. If you have the time and the interest, you could take a short massage course in order to learn how to expertly relieve tension in your partner. Alternatively, you might just want to shop for a smooth and pleasantly scented massage oil. Some of these oils are designed for foreplay and will be specially scented in a way that enhances sensuality. In addition, some flavored sexual lubricants double as massage oils, so you can combine massage with some more substantial foreplay.

4) Try abstaining from sex for a while:
Talk to your partner and agree on a length of time during which you will not make love at all. During this period, enjoy all of the forms of physical intimacy that young lovers tend to experience before they decide to have sex. When intercourse is not an option, you will work harder to please each other in all of these ways. When you finally return to having sex, you will hopefully hold on to all that you have learned and decide to incorporate it into fun and sensual foreplay.

5) Take a bath together:
Before you even get down to real foreplay, consider going for a hot bath together. The image of a couple in a bubble bath gently lit by candles may sound like a tired cliché, but the experience can be both relaxing and highly intimate. You might try surprising your partner with a bubble bath after work, and you could share a bottle of wine or some favourite chocolate while you bathe. After the bath, you will probably find that you are in the ideal mood for slow, sensual sex.

6) Have sex somewhere new:
In addition to approaching sex somewhat differently, you might want to start thinking about where you have it. A new location will help to spark new behaviours and encourage you to try new positions. If you always make love in bed, try moving to the shower or the sofa. If you have an entirely private yard, have sex outside in the summer.

7) Pick out lingerie together:
If you are female, encourage your partner to go shopping with you so that you can get some help and input when picking out sexy new bras and underwear. If your partner is female, go shopping and pick out a surprise (or find a few potential gifts online and let her choose which ones she likes best).


If you keep these seven tips in mind and work to include at least half of them in the way that you approach sex with your partner, your sex life will become more sensual and less predictable. You may also want to explore some more adventurous amendments to your sex life, but you should first start with the basics by working to create a greater degree of intimacy and a larger amount of sexual chemistry.

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