Thirteen Tips to Help You Prolong Sex and Be a Better Lover

By Dr. E. C. Gordon

Thirteen Tips to Help You Prolong Sex and Be a Better Lover

When men are asked how their sex lives could be improved, most admit that they feel they would be better lovers if they had a higher degree of sexual stamina. However, most also believe that they have no real hope of obtaining substantially longer-lasting erections without the use of medication. Thankfully, this is not the case. By incorporating the following thirteen tips into your sex life, you can achieve stronger and more effective erections without being prescribed drugs.

1) Vary your diet as much as possible:
Several interesting studies on male sexual performance have revealed that men with a limited diet have less healthy circulatory systems. If your circulatory system is not functioning to the best of its ability, it is more likely that you will have problems achieving and maintaining an erection (as the blood flow to your penis will be poor). To boost your circulation, make sure that you are getting enough energy from your meals. Eat plenty of protein, as well as carbohydrate-rich food such as brown bread, pasta and rice.

2) Adopt positions that increase blood flow:
When your partner is on top, it is harder for your body to make sure that your penis receives a consistent and adequate amount of blood. This leaves you with a less reliable erection that is more likely to fizzle out before you and your partner are fully satisfied. If you want to prolong sex, make love in positions that allow you to be on top of your partner. In missionary and rear entry positions, the blood flow to your erection will be stronger and more consistent. Of course, you may find it repetitive or dull to have only two sexual positions in your repertoire, so try doing some online research in order to discover more positions that will allow you to be on top and thereby maximize blood flow.

3) Reduce the level of fat in your diet:
Testosterone is the most important male hormone when it comes to sexual desire and achieving strong erections. However, fatty foods reduce the level of testosterone in your body, making it more difficult for you to make sex last as long as you would like it to. If you cut down on the amount of fat that you consume, it is not just your penis that will thank you; your heart and waistline will benefit as well.

4) Reduce your sexual sensitivity:
For some men, the problem encountered when trying to prolong sex is not erection loss but rather an undesirably quick ejaculation. If this is an issue for you, one thing that might help a great deal is a reduction in the level of stimulation during intercourse. Sometimes, learning how to temporarily shift your attention away from sex can work wonders by allowing you to calm down and delay your orgasm. There are also some condoms specifically designed to reduce sensitive in order to boost sexual stamina, and you might want to try some of these if psychological efforts yield no results.

5) Look into the side effects of any drugs you are taking:
Unfortunately, some of the most important and effective medications can lead to erection problems and poor sexual stamina. Anti-depressants are some of the main culprits, with a decreased sex drive and less reliable erections being two of the most common side effects reported by patients. Many drugs that treat high blood pressure are also linked to a reduction in sexual stamina, as are certain muscle relaxants. Take a look at your medications and do some thorough research into their side effects. If you find a strong connection between one of your drugs and the problems that you are having in your sex life, approach your doctor so that you can discuss finding a similarly effective medication that might not influence your erections. However, it is vital that you not stop taking any prescribed medications unless expressly instructed to do so.

6) Cut down on alcohol consumption:
Alcohol reduces your responsiveness to physical stimulation, and this includes sexual stimulation. This means that even the skilled touch of your partner may not be able to turn on you on enough to allow you to develop and maintain an erection. If you keep your drinking in check (especially when you know you are going to be having sex later that day), you stand a much better chance of prolonging sex and satisfying your partner.

7) Combat sexual anxiety:
Many men experience problems with performance anxiety, as it is easy to feel as though you are under a great amount of pressure to be a good lover. Losing an erection can be embarrassing in a lot of contexts, and fear of this happening to you can unfortunately end up being at the forefront of your mind when you are just about to have sex. Of course, focusing on feelings of anxiety and low self-confidence actually decrease your chances of having a long and satisfying sexual experience, as erections are quick to disappear when negative emotions are felt. If this sort of performance anxiety is one of the things that are making you feel as though you are not as good a lover as you could be, one of the main ways to help yourself is to have a frank and honest conversation with your partner. You may think that you are the only one who experiences self-doubt in relation to sex, but your partner will most likely share some of her own insecurities and help you to realize that some of your worst fears about negative judgment are actually unfounded. This will make it easier for you to relax during sex in the future, and if you are genuinely having fun without fear then you will be much more likely to be able to prolong sex. If getting rid of your problematic anxiety proves to be more complicated, you might consider seeing a relationship counselor who specializes in helping couples get over psychological issues connected to sex.

8) Quit smoking:
In addition to being connected to a whole host of potentially fatal diseases, smoking cigarettes is linked to the development of poor circulation. Without good circulation, you have little hope of regularly attaining firm and long-lasting erections.

9) Reduce the frequency of masturbation:
If you want to be able to maintain a strong and long-lasting erection, try to make sure that you don’t masturbate in the twelve hour period before having sex. Masturbation uses up some of the blood flow that you need in order to avoid losing an erection during intercourse. In addition, it is worth noting that you might be having problems with sexual performance because frequent masturbation is ‘teaching’ your body to respond exclusively to your own very specific touch. If you reduce the frequency of masturbation and try to add variety to your techniques, you will find that your body will start to learn to respond to all sorts of different types and speeds of sexual stimulation. This will make it easier to maintain a strong erection when your partner is pleasuring you or when you are making love.

10) Keep your body fit:
If you regularly exercise, you will have a stronger cardiovascular system that is more readily able to supply your erections with the necessary blood flow during sex.

11) Pace yourself in the bedroom:
It is easy to get carried away with passion and enthusiasm when you are about to have sex with an attractive partner. However, if you use up all of your energy in the first five minutes of foreplay or sex, the resulting tiredness increases your risk of losing your erection before the lovemaking is over.

12) Buy a penis ring:
Penis rings are affordable little rubber rings that sit at the base of the penis during sex. They trap blood in your penis, helping you to prolong sex by aiding you in maintaining a firm erection. They do not work for everyone, but given that they cost so little then you may be want to invest in one to see whether they might offer a simple solution to your problems.

13) Consider buying zinc supplements:
Zinc encourages your body to produce plenty of testosterone and improves sperm count (as well as sperm quality). If you want to prolong sex by achieving longer-lasting erections, it may be worth your while to try taking zinc for a while in order to see whether there is any noticeable difference.

Although these diet and lifestyle modifications should lead to obvious and sustained improvements in your sex life, you should not expect miracles! It takes time and effort to deal with sexual anxiety, improve your diet, or learn how to adopt new sexual positions that boost blood flow. However, if after substantial time and effort you do not experience an increased ability to prolong sex, you should discuss your concerns with your doctor. Sometimes, problems achieving and maintaining erections are related to underlying health problems, and your doctor will be able to launch the appropriate investigations that may allow you to find a straightforward solution.