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Ladies Night at Romantic Depot

Ladies’ Night Every Tuesday at Romantic Depot

October 29, 2020
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Ladies’ night is finally here! What better way to spend a fun, playful evening with friends than shopping for lingerie, sex toys, and body products? Romantic Depot loves all of its customers and especially loves catering to beautiful, sexually adventurous women who like to have a good time. Which is why we’re celebrating you every Tuesday night from 5 pm to midnight with unbelievable ladies’ night specials. Enjoy HUGE discounts by simply mentioning the code Ladies Night in-store. And don’t forget to collect your FREE mystery gift! 

At Romantic Depot, we know how to make ladies feel special. You’ll be treated like a queen from the moment you arrive. Feel free to bring a friend or your partner and we’ll be happy to honor the discount. After all, the more the merrier! Snap a picture of all the fun you’re having and share it with friends. Help them get as excited as you are about our amazing offers. 

But our ladies’ night offer isn’t just about the savings (although those are pretty great)! It’s about the entire Romantic Depot experience. You’ll feel instantly welcomed and comfortable when entering any of our eight upscale locations where we offer a private, one-of-a-kind shopping experience. 

Whether you own a few sex toys, have an entire collection, or are new to purchasing adult products, our extensive inventory has something you’ll love. All ladies receive HUGE discounts and a free mystery gift! So, grab a few of your closest girlfriends, and let’s explore all that Romantic Depot has to offer!

Ladies Night at Romantic Depot

Lingerie and Body Products

Are you a bit more conservative when it comes to purchasing adult items? No problem! Our experienced and professional staff will respect your privacy from the moment you step inside our doors. You’ll be handed a discreet black shopping bag to keep all of your purchases private. Have questions? Our staff is always close-by to assist in any way they can (but not too close that you’ll feel shy or pressured to buy). 

Why not start with a sexy piece of lingerie or undergarments? Although we do have plenty of revealing lingerie, we also have pieces that double as everyday wear. Our thigh-high leggings and body stockings fit comfortably beneath your clothes like a naughty little secret you can reveal when the time is right. Our playful costumes are another great choice for role-playing. Try out a seductive sheer teddy or up your game with lingerie equipped with a vibrator!

Romantic Depot has plenty of body products, lotions, massage oils, lubes, and candles for anyone too shy to purchase sex toys with friends. (Don’t forget, you can always shop online at RomanticDepot.com for fast, discreet shipping to your doorstep. Enter the promo code RomanticDepot for an extra 10% off your purchase.) 

Our heart-shaped edible candles smell as good as they taste! Available in watermelon, peppermint, strawberry, and chocolate (just to name a few), these sweet-smelling candles burn into warm, edible massage oil for hours of seductive play! If you enjoy a relaxing bath, you’ll love our bath bombs and bubble bath products. 

 

Games and Gifts

Are you purchasing a sexy item to bring home to your partner? Our line of naughty games is the perfect way to expand your sexual horizons and switch things up in the bedroom. Roll the dice and see where you have to kiss, lick, or rub your partner. Our couple’s games help you get to know your partner on a deeper level. We also have plenty of group games for even more flirtatious fun!

Purchasing a gift? Romantic Depot’s novelty items include naughty candy, edible panties, and lipstick. We also carry an entire line of bachelorette party products. Why not bring your gal pals in for an entire ladies’ night experience?

 

Sex Toys

Romantic Depot carries some of the hottest luxury sex toy brands in the country! From Le Wand and LELO to WeVibe, our sex toys treat a woman’s body right. Whether you’re in the market for a toy just for you or one to share with a partner, you’ll find plenty of options to fit your body, needs, and fantasies.

Start out with one of our discreet lipstick vibrators or bullets. These petite vibrators are perfect for beginners or anyone on the go. They easily slip inside your purse (and other places) for on the spot pleasure. 

Rabbit vibrators are a classic choice and a fan-favorite of most women. If dual stimulation is what you need, look no further than one of these sleek and powerful toys. The internal vibrator delivers penetration while the clit stimulator offers the targeted stimulation you need to enter a new realm of pleasure. Our G-spot vibrators are designed to fit your unique curves and angles. When it comes to intense vibrations and guaranteed results, our wand vibrators don’t disappoint. 

 

Romantic Depot Offers a Safe, Comfortable, Luxury Shopping Experience

Girl’s night out will never be the same. Tell all your friends about our HUGE discounts and they’ll receive a free gift, too! Ladies, take advantage of our Tuesday night specials from 5 pm to midnight and get ready to indulge in all your favorite things – sexy fun, laughs, pampering, gifts, and amazing discounts!

Romantic Depot welcomes ladies of all experience levels. Our friendly staff will answer all of your questions and even perform demonstrations to show you exactly how each toy works and all of its features. Our mission is and always has been to create a safe, healthy, comfortable shopping experience. 

Ladies’ night is just one more way for us to show thanks and appreciation to our loyal customers for supporting us during the Covid-19 pandemic. To comply with the local stay-at-home orders, we were forced to close our doors. By offering same-day, at-home delivery, and VIP discounts, we were grateful for the opportunity to continue serving the local area. To care for our online customers in every way possible, we also mailed thousands of free health and wellness kits including hand sanitizer and face masks. 

And thanks to your patience and support, we can now open our doors and give back to all those who have given so much to us over the last 20 years.

So, come on ladies, come out and celebrate with us every Tuesday night where you’re the star of the show!

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The Ultimate Guide to Vibrators

The Ultimate Ladies’ Guide to Vibrators

July 1, 2020
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The vibrator is one of the oldest and most versatile adult sex toys on the market today. In fact, it was first created as a medical tool in the 1800s. Ironically enough, it was used to help “relax” female patients who became nervous or hysterical during the exam. Doctors performed a pelvic massage to induce hysterical paroxysm (a fancy word for orgasm)!

Before long women caught onto the pleasure of using pelvic massage outside of the doctor’s office to achieve orgasm on their own — and the magical world of masturbation using a vibrator was born!

Today, the term “vibrator” is used to describe a wide range of products. Similar to dildos, vibrators come in countless shapes, sizes, and materials with each serving their own specific purpose.

Romantic Depot offers high-quality vibrators in every category and price range. Due to the recent Covid-19 pandemic (and more people staying at home, feeling stressed and sexually frustrated), Romantic Depot is proud to offer fast and discreet, same-day shipping in the NY tri-state area for VIP customers. Most orders arrive in between 45 minutes and 5 hours, depending on location and availability. Learn more here about how to shake that quarantine boredom with quality sex toys, lingerie, gifts, and games! Orders over $50 are also eligible for a free health and wellness kit which includes 3 face masks, toy cleaner, and a free novelty toy!

Whether you’re replacing an old vibrator, shopping for your very first sex toy, or want to broaden your horizons with a different kind of vibrator, keep reading!

We’re about to uncover six of the most popular types of vibrators and how each one can bring you unique, individualized pleasure.

 

Clitoral Vibrators

Adam and Eve's Clitorial VibratorThis tops our list as one of the least intimidating vibrators of the bunch. If you’re a little squeamish about sticking a large, vibrating sex toy into your vagina, why not start with a petite and gentle toy that targets your external erogenous zones?

The clitoris is packed with over 8,000 nerve-endings, making it one of the most sensitive and pleasurable parts of the female body. Clitoral vibrators are designed to stimulate and titillate every inch of this powerful sex gland.

While you can use almost any vibrator on any part of your body, clitoral vibrators are designed to target this specific area. Many are small and designed for easy, hand-held use. Some tips have forked tongues to nestle securely around your clitoris while others actually mimic a real tongue for simulated oral sex. Some clit vibrators completely engulf the clitoris offering a “sucking” sensation for optimal pleasure. Others simply rest against your clit as a variety of vibration patterns electrify your senses. All of these vibrators have one thing in common — they’re easy to use and they get the job done!

For those women who need clitoral stimulation in order to climax (which is about 40% of women), bring your clitoral vibrator to bed and use it during intercourse for a truly mindblowing orgasm!

 

G-Spot Vibrators

G-spot Vibrator

The elusive G-spot. It’s like the unicorn of female pleasure. Not all women can achieve a G-spot orgasm. Some have never tried and others think it doesn’t exist. Well, we’re here to tell you that not only does the G-spot exist, but there are some pretty awesome vibrators designed specifically to help you achieve a G-spot orgasm.

A quick Google search will tell you that the G-spot (or Grafenberg spot) is located on the upper wall of the vagina, a few inches inside the opening. Once you know where to find your G-spot, the design and purpose of a G-spot vibrator will make a lot more sense! Most G-spot vibrators are curved at the top to give you the angle you need to tickle and stimulate this pleasure zone.

Finding your G-spot will take plenty of patience and practice, but a curved G-spot vibrator will make your journey easier and more successful. Choose a flexible, silicone G-spot vibrator with an array of vibration settings and patterns for easy insertion, exploration, and clean-up!

 

Rabbit Vibrators

Rabbit Vibrator

When most people hear the word “vibrator”, this is the sex toy they picture. It was featured on Sex and the City and has likely undergone a variety of redesigns over the years. But the basic concept behind a classic rabbit vibrator is a shaft for internal stimulation paired with an external clit stimulator — usually shaped like bunny ears (hence the name). These “ears” are designed to nestle perfectly around your clit for dual-stimulation when masturbating. If you’re one of the 40% of women who need both vaginal and clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, this is the vibrator for you!

Not all rabbit vibrators have bunny ears. The same concept and design apply to vibrators with a small clit stimulator that is either rounded or flat. Our Perfect Rabbit Vibrator is a best seller and a prime example of a rabbit with a rounded clit stimulator.

Some toys allow each arm to vibrate or rotate independently. That means you can adjust the intensity of both the vibrations on your clit and those inside your body. Some women prefer just penetration with clit vibration, internal vibration with just pressure on their clit, or no vibration at all! Even though these sex toys are designed with powerful vibration settings, you can use them however you want. This feature makes them one of the most versatile vibrators on our list.

 

Massage Wands

Massage Wands

Vibrating wands are another classic vibrator option that are versatile and relatively simple to use. If you want a strong vibrator minus all the bells and whistles, a traditional wand is the way to go. This is another vibrator that you may remember seeing Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda swooning over on Sex and the City. These vibrators are sometimes disguised as neck or back massagers by those women less open about their sex life. In fact, with so many rumbling vibrations, some wands actually do double as massagers — who knew?!

One thing’s for sure, if you’re looking for a powerhouse vibrator that hits all the right spots without fail, look no further than a massage wand. The tell-tale characteristics of a wand are its long handle and broad head. It can easily please women (and men) of all shapes, sizes, and sexual preferences. Most massage wands are oversized, like this gorgeous and functional Le Wand Pearl. Others are small and discreet like this one for easy transportation.

 

Wearable Vibrators

Wearable Vibrators

Are you a voyeurist? Do you enjoy plenty of foreplay and build-up before getting down to business? What better way to get your motor running than by using a wearable vibrator? These little gems usually slip into your panties and are controlled by a cordless remote for some on-the-go excitement. There are even vibrating panties available with built-in toys. Wearable vibrators are great for couples and solo adventures. You can use them both at home and out to dinner, work, or that boring PTO meeting. Just be prepared to control yourself — these tiny vibrators pack a big, electrifying punch.

They’re also ideal for clitoral stimulation during sex and masturbation thanks to their petite size. Most wearable vibrators offer a few different settings to choose from and are controlled by a wireless remote. Getting ready for a hot date with your partner? Slip one of these into your pants, hand over the remote, and hold on for a good time!

 

Bullet Vibrators

Bullet Vibrator

Another popular on-the-go option in the world of vibrators is the bullet. Synonymous with the name, bullet vibrators are shaped like small, elongated torpedoes that easily fit in your purse, briefcase, or carry-on. Why give up healthy, fun sex with your partner (or yourself) just because you’re traveling? Slip one of these classic vibrators into your pocket or purse and fun and pleasure can follow you anywhere.

Similar to clit vibrators, bullets offer targeted pleasure thanks to their shape and size. Bullets offer a nice mix of variety and simplicity. Whether you want a small but effective vibrator to get the job done or you want to experiment with your partner, yourself, or other sex toys, bullet vibrators do it all! Some are even compatible with certain lingerie and harness and dildo combos. You may only have a few vibration settings and patterns to choose from but with such a well-designed toy, that’s really all you’ll need!

 

Take Your Pick!

With so many different types of vibrators to choose from, you’re sure to find one (or a few) that meets all your sexual needs. Vibrators are a classic and versatile sex toy option and a staple in any collection. Whether you want to engage in solo or couple’s fun, these vibrators offer targeted stimulation for use between the sheets, in private, or on the go.

Feeling a little extra frisky or lonely during the recent Covid-19 pandemic? Romantic Depot has you covered! Take advantage of our same-day, discreet shipping. That means if you see something you like on our website, you can order it now and receive it at your doorstep in just a few hours! Talk about instant gratification. So, what are you waiting for? Check out our full line of vibrators here and unlock your pleasure today.

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Top 13 Dildos for Ultimate Pleasure

Top 13 Dildos for Ultimate Pleasure

April 18, 2020
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Dildos have been around for a lot longer than most people realize. The unintimidating sex toy is a classic choice for women, men, and couples. Dildos are perfect for masturbating or experimenting with a partner. Most people think all dildos are created equal — a large rubber toy that resembles a real penis. But the truth is, dildos come in a variety of shapes, sizes, materials, and colors, which make them ideal for exploring all of your wildest fantasies.

Romantic Depot proudly offers a wide range of dildos in a variety of styles, colors, and sizes. Our products are made of body-safe silicone and reasonably priced for every budget. We have the most inexpensive selection of dildos with prices lower than Amazon like these starting at just $9.95 and $15!  You can safely and confidently order at RomanticDepot.com for free, domestic shipping. Our silicone dildos are also easy to clean using a quality toy cleaner, making them safe for use alone or with a partner.

Whether you already own a dildo, are shopping for a different model, or are curious about what’s available, this article is for you! Keep reading to discover a complete guide to 13 of the most popular dildos for every taste and budget.

 

1) Dildos with Balls

What fake dick is complete without realistic testicles? Not only do dildos with testicles resemble the real thing most, but they actually serve a purpose. When this style dildo is full-inserted, the balls make contact with the buttocks and thighs. When simulating hardcore sex with a man, the dildo’s testicles make a realistic slapping sound against the skin. As with most dildos, those with testicles come in a variety of sizes. Depending on your body and comfort level, you may want to opt for a 6-inch dildo so you can insert it fully without trouble. Lube helps too! Dildos with testicles usually stand-up on their own thanks to the testicle’s flat base design. This is the perfect dildo for women (and men) who love a nice, healthy set of balls!

 

2) Dildos without Testicles

Just because some people prefer the life-like style of a dildo with balls, doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. If you don’t find testicles sexually arousing, opt for a dildo without them. Dildos without balls are usually smaller and easier to handle than those equipped with a big set. These dildos are usually slimmer and less bulky. The petite size also makes these dildos easier to transport or hide in your goodie drawer. Just keep in mind that a dildo without balls doesn’t have a “handle” to grip. That means you need to be careful not to insert it too far and choose one that’s big enough for you to grip with a full hand.

 

3) Suction Cup Dildos

Suction cup dildos are a classic choice for anyone who loves hot, wet, shower sex. Suction cup dildos are also perfect for use in the bathtub, hot tub, or in a strap-on harness. The suction cup base is large and easy to handle for extra thrusting power. When used on a shower wall or other hard surface, the dildo stays securely in place so that you can bounce, thrust, and ride it hands-free while focusing purely on your pleasure. You can also get creative by suctioning this dildo to a hard surface and mounting it! Most suction cups are pretty powerful and stay securely in place throughout sex play. The base is also compatible with most harnesses to help take your couple’s play to the next level!

 

4) Realistic Dildos

Realistic dildos make bringing toys into the bedroom more exciting and less intimidating for beginners. Some women feel foolish using oversized, fake-looking dildos. Penis-shaped dildos complete with natural flesh tones, veins, wrinkles, and both circumcised and uncircumcised heads are some of the top-selling sex toys for women. Realistic dildos come in a variety of styles and price ranges based on the type of material and detail. Users love realistic dildos for both solo play and couples experimenting with threesome and bisexual fantasies.

 

5) Real Skin Dildos

People often confuse realistic dildos with real skin dildos. While both look authentic, real skin dildos have the added benefit of feeling like human skin. The silicone material is designed to mimic a real erection between the sheets and between your legs. It also matches and retains your body temperature to imitate actual sex. Similar to realistic dildos, some real skin varieties are pretty pricey depending on how they’re made. High-end real skin dildos are usually made with two layers of silicone to create a dense, hard center with a softer surface layer, mimicking the feel of a human erection.

 

6) G-Spot Dildos

This type of dildo is a fan-favorite among the ladies. Designed to curve just right, G-spot dildos are shaped to hit those hard-to-reach spots. Most G-spot dildos are curved to find and stimulate the G-spot which is located about 3 inches inside the vagina, below the urethra. While these dildos are intended to give you a G-spot orgasm, their unconventional shape can sometimes make them tricky to insert. You’ll need plenty of lube and just the right angle. Many G-spot dildos are equipped with vibrators to intensify the experience.

 

7) Anal Dildos

This one is for the ladies and the gents. Anal dildos are shaped differently than the regular variety since they’re designed for backdoor use. These dildos come in a variety of shapes and sizes for multiple purposes. Whether you’re a gay (or straight) man who enjoys anal penetration or a lady warming up to the idea of anal sex, these dildos can help you ease into things. Available in small, beginner sizes as well as larger varieties, most anal dildos lack the bulky testicles mentioned before to make insertion easy and comfortable. Another popular choice is an anal prostate massager designed specifically for prostate play and stimulation.

 

8) Squirting Dildos

Do you want to pair your realistic dildo with a realistic orgasmic ending? Then try a squirting dildo! These sex toys simulate a real happy ending with a reservoir located in the testicles that contains water or cum lube. When you squeeze the plunger, the dildo “ejaculates” out of a small opening in the tip. Squirting dildos are great for living out couples’ fantasies or for solo play.

 

9) Black Dildos

Let’s face it — there’s nothing quite like a big, black dildo to set a girl’s heart racing. Regardless of your ethnic background, black dildos are synonymous with ultimate pleasure. The most popular black dildos aren’t quite black in color, but instead, a more realistic flesh tone often described as mocha or deep brown. There is, however, a market for pitch-black dildos that resemble a permanent marker. The shade of the dildo is really up to you, but most people prefer a realistic black dildo that is 8-inches or larger to capture the true experience.

 

10) Small Dildos

On the other side of the spectrum are small dildos for those sexual enthusiasts who might be intimidated by a giant black dildo! Smaller dildos are fun, easy to use, and a great way to ease into the sex toy world. Small dildos are usually short and thin — or both! Some women enjoy the girth without the length, while others prefer a thinner, longer dildo. This 4-inch variety is compatible with a strap-on harness and the perfect size for pegging, which means men love small dildos just as much as their partners!

 

11) Glass Dildos

When most people hear the term glass dildos the first thing that comes to mind is “ouch”. But the truth is, when used correctly, glass dildos have some pretty amazing and pleasurable features that other dildos don’t offer. First off, glass dildos are shatterproof, which means they won’t chip or break even if you accidentally drop it. That doesn’t mean you should test out this theory — treat your glass dildo with love! This dildo variety is also extremely smooth, making insertion easy and comfortable. You’ll also notice how heavy they are, which gives users a feeling of power and control. Another cool feature is that glass dildos hold temperature well, which means you can experiment with both hot and cold water for a unique experience.

 

12) Vibrating Dildos 

The next best sex toy to a dildo is a vibrator — so why not combine the two for a truly mind-blowing experience? Vibrating dildos combine the realistic features of a penis with the amazing power of a vibrating motor. Vibrating dildos intensify your orgasms by doubling both your fun and your pleasure! Kick things up a notch by opting for a remote control vibrating dildo. Now, you can enjoy hands-free fun either alone or with a partner.

 

13) Strap-On Dildos 

Strap-on dildos are fun for everyone! Straight and gay couples alike enjoy the excitement of bringing another “man” into the bedroom. The best part about strap-on dildos is that they’re versatile — most can be used both in a harness and out. That way, you can control the realistic dildo yourself when masturbating or hand it over to your partner to wear for some role-playing fun. Find a strap-on dildo that both you and your partner are comfortable using, then choose the appropriate harness. Harnesses are available in unisex, men, and double-penetration for women.

 

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Medical grade silicone dildos are the best option for consumers today. They are the easiest to clean and non porous and allows any bacteria to be easily cleaned from the surface. Check out our full line of silicone dildos from 5.5 “ inches to 9 inches at this link.

Romantic Depot’s full selection of affordable dildos has something for everyone. Here you’ll find dildos in a variety of sizes from 4-inches up to 9-inches, as well as countless styles and color choices. All made from body-safe materials, our line of dildos is the safe, affordable way to fulfill all of your sexual fantasies both alone and with your partner.

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winter adult toys and vibrators

5 Best Winter Adult Toys and Vibrators to Warm You Up in the New York City, NY Area

February 19, 2020
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Are you looking to warm things up this winter season? Want to heat up the bedroom and your sex life? Look no further than these high-quality, guaranteed-to-satisfy adult toys and vibrators exclusively from Romantic Depot.

With six convenient sex stores in the New York City, New York Tri-state area you can view, feel, and see demonstrations for some of the hottest adult toys and vibrators available. Are you stuck inside due to the brutal winter weather? No problem! You can also discreetly order your favorite sex toys online at RomanticDepot.com for fast, free shipping.

Ready to warm your body up from the inside out? Check out our top five picks below for the hottest winter adult toys and vibrators in the New York City, NY tri-state area.

 

1. Supercharged Remote Control Silicone Bullet

Supercharged Remote Control Silicone Bullet

Do you have a pair of panties with a pocket and a taste for adventure? If so, the Supercharged Remote Control Silicone Bullet is the perfect vibrator to heat things up between you and your partner (and your legs!) this winter season.

This bullet vibrator is water resistant and made from 100% medical grade silicone. Equipped with a wireless remote that reaches up to 80 feet away, simply slide this discreet sex toy into your panties and let the fun begin!

Your partner can control the toy’s numerous settings, vibrations, and speeds from across the dinner table or across the room. Because the Supercharged Bullet is water resistant, it doesn’t matter how excited you get — this vibrator can handle it.

The real question is, how much intensity can you handle?

 

2. Supercharged Elite Silicone Power Wand

Supercharged Elite Silicone Power Wand

There’s nothing quite like a classic wand vibrator to bring a little heat and spice into the bedroom. Perfect for use with a partner or alone, the Supercharged Elite Silicone Power Wand is versatile and powerful.

With 12 different speed settings and 360-degree controls, you’ll have no problem finding just the right spot to send you over the edge. Covered in medical-grade silicone, the Power Wand is waterproof and body-safe. The flexible head bends and moves with your body, making it perfect for use with any of Romantic Depot’s other sex toy products like vibrators.

Available in black, black and gold, and pink, the Supercharged Elite Silicone Power Wand boasts a sleek, sexy design. Easy to charge and use, this classic vibrator is sure to warm you up on those cold winter nights.

 

3. The Ultimate Bondage Kit

Ultimate Bondage Kit

A sure fire way to heat things up this winter is with a little bondage. Are you curious what it would feel like to be tied up by your partner? Are you dying to blindfold your lover and have your way with them? Romantic Depot’s Ultimate Bondage Kit is the perfect package for both beginners and those experienced in BDSM.

This ultimate kit comes with everything you need to tease, tantalize, and pleasure the sex slave of your choice. Designed after the hot and steamy classic Fifty Shades of Gray, this kit includes:

● Wrist restraints
● Ankle restraints
● Blindfold
● Rope
● Ball gag
● Flogger
● Collar
● Lease

The Ultimate bondage kit allows you and your partner to explore your deepest, darkest fantasies. Restrain your ankles and wrists, secure the blindfold and ball gag, and prepare to be at the mercy of your lover.

 

4. Original We-Vibe Sync

Original We-Vibe Sync

The Original We-Vibe Sync is the ultimate couple’s sex toy to warm you up from the inside out on a cold, winter’s night. Ergonomically designed to perfectly fit the contours of your unique body, users will enjoy simultaneous G-spot and clitorial simulation. The We-Vibe Sync’s innovative shape and flexibility allow you to reshape and adjust this toy for a perfect fit every time.

Once the vibrator is securely in place, you can easily change sex positions without losing the intense connection between your pleasure points and the We-Vibe Sync. Your partner can get in on the fun too, feeling every vibration and pulsation once they enter you. You can also take control of your pleasure in different, naughty ways by using the vibrator’s remote control, which works up to 3 meters away! Sync the We-Vibe with your cellphone for even more convenient, hands-free fun for both you and your partner. Check out our adult toys for couples.

With a convenient carrying case that doubles as a charger, you’ll enjoy hours of steamy, discreet fun at home and on the go. Hailed as one of We-Vibes best selling products, Romantic Depot offers the lowest available price and free shipping! Play around with this vibrator’s versatile shape and take your sexual pleasure to new heights this winter season.

5. Swiss Navy Premium Water Based Lubricant

Swiss Navy Premium Water Based Lubricant

No sex toy collection is complete without a water based lubricant. Water based lubes are perfect for use with your favorite silicone sex toys. Water based products preserve the medical-grade silicone, guaranteeing uninterrupted use time and again without worry. Swiss Navy Premium Water Based Lubricant is also safe for use with condoms. The non-staining formula makes for quick and easy clean-up.

Whether you need a little help to get warmed up or you’re experimenting with new sexual positions and toys, the Swiss Navy Premium water based lubricant provides just the right amount of lubrication for both partners. Boasting a smooth, realistic feel, this lube comes out like a gel and stays put for hours of fun. As you move, the gel liquifies, allowing for friction-free, smooth gliding as you explore both solo and couples play.

The leak proof bottle guarantees your lube stays where you want it, and nowhere else! Scent free, Swiss Navy’s premium lubricant mimics your body’s natural fluids, creating steamy sex sessions every single time.

 

Are you ready to heat things up this winter?

Need a break from the bone chilling cold outside? Any of Romantic Depot’s quality adult toys and sex products are sure to leave you and your partner sweating and panting in pleasure! Conveniently order online for discreet, free shipping. Looking for a more hands-on experience? Visit any of our sex stores in the New York City, New York Tri-state area including Manhattan, the Bronx, Queens, Westchester, Yonkers, and Rockland County. Our experienced staff will gladly help you find the perfect adult toys and accessories to warm your body in all the right places!

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Spice Up Sex Life

How to spice up your sex life

November 22, 2019
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How to spice up your sex life before you get to the bedroom

Every aspect of your relationship is as unique as the two individuals involved. Your communication, likes, dislikes, relatives and sex are completely unique to the two of you. This is a very important consideration when it comes to the point where you want to spice up your sex life. To rekindle the fire in your bedroom therefore requires an understanding of each others personality, an honest assessment of the relationship you have and your current circumstances. Failing to address these three core aspects will only result in short term changes in the sex department regardless of how much kink you bring into the bedroom. 

It has been said that the mind is the most powerful sex organ. Those who appreciate this fact have achieved the highest levels of sexual satisfaction. You therefore need to start with your mind when looking to spice up your sex life. Once that is covered, you are well on your way to what others consider a fairy tale bedroom story. Once you are in the right frame of mind there are a number of things you can do to turn the little sparks that have been in your bedroom into a raging sexual fire.

1. Begin with yourself

While most of the tips on how to spice up your sex life tell you what you can do for your partner, these can only succeed after you have taken care of you. For you to successfully spice things up, you need to focus on what makes you feel sexy. This calls for you to have a sexy state of mind, a sexy state of dress or undress, a sexy environment and a sexy anything else you want. You are fifty percent of the sexual relationship you are working on and that means you are half the solution that is needed to make a difference.  

2. Be assertive

You need to occasionally take charge of things in the sex department. It not only communicates the fact that you are very involved in what is going on, but it also serves as an educative session on things you enjoy doing and being done to you. This is not only in regards to the sexual activities themselves but also has to do with the various other aspects. Ask your partner to dress up in a way that you find sexually attractive, choose where and when to have sex and include the things that are fun and kinky for you. Taking control of your sexual experiences will often result in greater satisfaction for you which in turn makes you more willing to give your partner a similar level of satisfaction.

3. Break the rules and the routine

Rules and routine are the worst excitement killers. If you know what will happen before it starts, there is no way you can get excited about it. Throwing in sexy surprises is a sure way of firing up your sex life. There is always a thrill in doing something that you would not do under normal circumstances. Depending on how far the two of you are willing to go, a few broken rules will go a long way towards making things a lot more interesting for you and your partner. You do not have to go all the way but a few intimate moments can be a great build up towards an awesome sexual encounter. The more creative you can get with your surprises, the better things are going to be.

4. Make sex a priority

With a busy personal, professional and family life, sex can easily become something you do when there is time and energy left after everything else has been done. Prioritizing sex is one of the most important things when you are working to spice up your sex life. It means making time for sex, actively thinking of ways to make it better and ensuring that you are energetic and enthusiastic when going into it. 

5. Work on your relationship

While sex is a big part of your relationship, it is not everything in your relationship. Just as problems with sex affect your relationship, problems in your relationship are bound to affect your sex. If you are constantly working to improve your relationship you will in many ways be working on improving your sex life.

Having covered these fundamental areas, you can then go into the more instant solutions such as shopping for sexy clothing, experimenting with toys and role playing, acting out fantasies and other such things. Combining both the long term and instant solutions is the best way to spice up your sex life.

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Men Who Fear Sex Toys

November 22, 2019
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Bringing toys into your boudoir is a fun and exciting way to spice up your love life.  However, some men are apprehensive about using toys, and a few may downright refuse.  Why is this?  And how can you help your man get past this?

Why Men are Afraid of Toys

Usually, the reason is a simple and unsurprising one: they make him feel inadequate.

Many men think that the reason you want to introduce toys to your bedroom is because he alone is not enough to satisfy you.  Although this is likely not the case, it will nonetheless bruise his ego.

There are a few things you can try if your man seems less-than-enthusiastic about trying something new.

Start Slow

Don’t be too insistent that he try using toys.  If you suggest them and he says no, don’t ask again for a few days or weeks.  Trying to force toys into your relationship will only further his feelings that he isn’t satisfying you.

Make It Something Special for Him

Give him his own private peep show.  Tell him he is only allowed to watch while you play with your new toy.  Don’t let him join in until he can no longer stand it!

Try this for a birthday or anniversary present, or even as a “just because.”  Hopefully, this will turn him on and help to change his attitude about toys!

Focus on Him

Don’t concentrate too much on they toys.  Use them for foreplay and to get things heated up, but toss them aside after a short while.  Making him the main focus will help ease any feelings of inadequacy.

Size Matters 

Since his apprehension is likely fueled by feeling that he is not man enough, make sure you don’t choose a toy that reinforces these feelings.  Look for a toy that is smaller than he is.  Knowing that his size isn’t in question will make him feel better about the situation.

When All Else Fails…

You may find that no matter your approach, you man is still not comfortable with the idea of bringing toys into the bedroom.  If this is the case for you, you may have to take no for an answer.  

Rather than potentially destroying the relationship, try something else to spice things up in the bedroom, like new positions or techniques.  Keep your toys tucked away for those times when he is out of town or otherwise not around, and settle for using them solo.

Be patient, be thoughtful, and don’t be too pushy.  Hopefully, these tips will help to ease your man’s anxiety about bringing toys into your love life!

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Cleaning Sex Toys

November 8, 2019
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Cleaning Sex Toys
By Romantic Depot

We’re all aware of the various benefits a healthy sex life can bring to us. From improved mental and physical health to strengthing our relationships with our partners, it can’t be overstated how important being sexually active is for us as adult human beings.

One of the best ways to practice a healthy sexual lifestyle, either alone or with a partner, is to introduce sex toys into the equation. But like every other sexual activity, without taking sexual hygiene into consideration, you can subject yourself to some serious health risks.

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That’s why cleaning sex toys properly is so important.

But how exactly do you clean your sex toys in a safe way? Do you need to invest in various sex toy cleaners? And what are the most important tips to keep in mind during the process so both you and your partner can stay happy and healthy?

If you’re asking yourself these kinds of questions, wonder no longer, because we’re here to help! In this article, we’ll give you a basic guideline that you can use to make sure you’re keeping your sex toys clean in a safe and efficient way.

Now then, let’s get started!

Shop with Cleanliness in Mind

When it comes to being hygienic with your sex toys, the process actually starts a lot earlier than you may think. In fact, when you’re shopping for a new sex toy, it’s a good idea to keep cleanliness in mind before making a purchase.

Of course, purchasing items that are easy to clean shouldn’t be your main priority, but it should be something that you seriously consider. The good news? Exciting toys that are made from materials that don’t have any pores, and are therefore the easiest to clean, are easy to find.

Anything made from hard plastic, silicone, elastomer, metal, and glass are all safe bets. So if you find something you like, and it’s made from those materials, you can rest easy knowing that it’s going to be easy to clean.

If you already have a favorite toy that has pores, like something made of jelly, consider covering it with a condom before using it. You’ll be keeping the toy cleaner by doing so, as well as protecting yourself and your partner, which can help prevent any health issues.

Clean Your Toys Before You Store Them

It might sound obvious, but it’s important to note that, in order to be as clean as possible, you should clean all of your toys right after use. By doing this, there isn’t any time for bodily fluids to harden or dry on your toys, and thus, making them harder to get clean.

Obviously stopping to clean a toy can really ruin the mood, so at worst, rinse your toy with clean water a few minutes after use. This will make it much easier to clean the toy when the time comes, and again, it can go a long way in keeping you and your partner healthy.

Regardless of when you clean your toy, it’s important that you do so before storing it away between uses. And it goes without saying, but using a toy that hasn’t been cleaned first isn’t a good idea, and can make both you and your partner sick.

A pro tip? Even if your toy is clean, a quick rinse to remove any dust before applying your favorite lube and using it never hurt anyone.

Avoid Smelly Soaps and Sprays

It’s quite common for both men and women to want to smell good for their partners. And if you’re going to as far as to clean your bed sheets, and light your favorite scented candle, you might as well make your toys smell good, too, right?

While it may be tempting to spray your toys with your favorite body spray or clean them with scented soaps, it’s actually a bad idea.  Avoid doing this completely, as the chemicals found in smelly soaps and sprays can lead to irritation and even infection.

And both of those things can be a nightmare scenario for both you and your partner to deal with, to say the least.

A good rule of thumb is to stick with anti-bacterial soaps, hot water, and a clean washrag or towel. Don’t try to get too fancy, just be practical and efficient, and you should be good to go.

Avoid the Dishwasher Completely

Did you know that you can wash hats, and other random items, in the dishwasher without damaging them? There are a wide variety of things that aren’t related to food that are dishwasher safe. And cleaning them that way can save a ton of time and energy, which is always a good thing.

With that in mind, there are quite a few sex toys that can also be washed in the dishwasher without being damaged.  And even though this may be true, it’s best to avoid the dishwasher completely, as a lot more can go wrong than right.

The extreme temperatures can melt or affect the shape of your favorite toys. Also, electronic toys can be completely ruined in the dishwasher, which of course, isn’t what you want to happen to something that you paid for.

Again, it can’t be overstated how far you can go with just a bit of hot water and some anti-bacterial soap. And oftentimes, those soaps made for dishwashers have some pretty powerful chemicals in them, which again, can lead to irritation and infection.

So keep it simple and safe and use hot water, anti-bacterial soap, and a sink.

Don’t Be Afraid to Use Boiling Water

The biggest reason that people want to use a dishwasher to clean their toys, besides convenience, is the hot water and the steam. If you’re looking to get this effect, and want to do so in a safer way, try using boiling water.

Before using boiling water to clean your sex toy, you want to make sure that it’s made of a material that is safe to do so with. Toys made from safe materials like stainless steel, silicone, pyrex, in particular, are more than okay to use boiling water on.

It’s worth noting too that, if your toy is motorized, completely submerging them underwater is not a good idea. You can do serious damage to your toys, so avoid mixing too much water with electronic toys to be safe.

Anti-bacterial soap, a little bit of water, and a clean rag or towel is the best way to clean most toys, especially those that you don’t want to get wet fully.

Clean Leather Items Properly

If you have any leather items or toys, you may feel the need to take extra precautions with them, as leather can be a delicate material that needs to be handled correctly. This is 100% true, which is why if you have any leather items, you shouldn’t try to do too much to clean them after use.

Once again, keeping it simple and sticking with hot water, anti-bacterial soap, and a clean rag is without a doubt the best way to go to get the job done.

What about leather cleaners? Are they a good idea?

To keep it short, not really, no. Leather cleaners, like smelly soaps and sprays, contain a lot of chemicals that can cause irritation and infection the next time you use your toy. So with that in mind, it’s a good idea to avoid those completely when cleaning your sex toys.

A Guideline to Cleaning Sex Toys

Well, there you have it! Those are a few basics tips and tricks to keep in mind when cleaning sex toys. So, as long as you keep these ideas in mind, you should remain safe, happy and healthy.

Remember, above all else, don’t avoid cleaning your sex toys completely. Never store away a toy that hasn’t been cleaned, and never use a previously used toy without cleaning it first.

When it comes time to clean your toys, keep it simple and use hot water, anti-bacterial soap, and a clean washrag or towel. You don’t need any fancy chemicals or soaps to get the job done.

If you can, try to buy toys for you and your partner that are the easiest to clean. That way, when it comes time to clean your toys, you’ve got a much easier task on your hands.

Trying to spice up your love life? Looking for some new sex toys for yourself or your partner? Check out our online shop today, we’ll be glad to help you!

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Bondage For Beginners

October 31, 2019
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By Terry Mancour

When you think of “kinky”, often the first thing that pops into your head is the image of whips and chains, pain and pleasure . . . and some guy with a cheesy 70s pornstar mustache.  But erotic bondage and discipline is both far more common and far less extreme than most people think.  Millions of couples have incorporated light bondage and fantasy discipline into their every-day sex lives without going to extremes.  Once the practice is understood for what it is – and what it isn’t – then incorporating this kind of fantasy sex into your life is a great way to inject some passion and intensity into your relationship.

Restraints

Erotic bondage is, quite simply, the use of restraints on one partner during sex to suggest a loss of control that many find exciting.  Control games such as tying up or blindfolding your partner can be highly stimulating – some lovers who have a hard time reaching orgasm because of control issues find it far easier to do so once they have abandoned themselves to a light bondage scenario.  The restraints, as nominal as they might be, give them permission to relax and “let go” for their lover.  Of course there are degrees of bondage play, from a simple binding of hands with a silk tie or pantyhose, through the use of light handcuffsor Velcro bindings, all the way up to rather extreme full-body suits that provide a sense of immobility that only a seasoned bondage enthusiast is usually comfortable with.

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Hand in hand with erotic bondage is BDSM – “Bondage & Discipline/Sado-Masochism” – the “whips” part of “whips and chains”.  While this aspect might be as daunting to some as bondage is to others, the safe and controlled fantasy power-plays between lovers can inspire great depths of passion, sexual exploration, and mind-numbing orgasms when just the right balance of pain and pleasure is achieved.  

Pain And Pleasure

While some are leery of mixing pain with pleasure, the two are naturally combined.  The same nerve cells on our skin that register a gentle caress become excited and super-sensitive when a little pain is provided.  The purpose of BDSM play is not to injure the recipient of the playful spanking, of course, or even cause a lot of pain – merely to excite and sensitize the flesh to achieve greater responsiveness and orgasm.  

Most beginners in BDSM confine themselves to a light spanking, with hand, small whip or paddle, often followed with tiny caresses that can inspire tremendous erotic sensation.  Of course many of us have fantasies of control that include pain and spanking – naughty schoolgirl/boy, “French Maid”, boss/secretary, master/slave girl and other erotic role-playing games incorporating some degree of BDSM are highly popular as our culture grows more sexually sophisticated.  Accessories to compliment these fantasies are widely available, from paddles, whips, and other “spanking implements” to costumes appropriate to any fantasy.  

Sex Play Rules

But even the novice BDSM enthusiast needs to remember a few key rules to restraints and sex play.  First there is the “safe word” – a mutually-agreed-upon word unlikely to come up in the scene (“umbrella” or “pickle” are popular) which, when spoken by either party, indicates that someone is feeling uncomfortable with the scenario and wants to stop.  Agreeing to a safe word is vital to fostering the sense of trust necessary to have a truly enjoyable BDSM experience.

Another mistake some novices make in their enthusiasm is introducing too many BDSM elements into their sex lives too quickly.  Not only can a mountain of whips and handcuffs be intimidating to a partner new to the practice, but trying to incorporate too much too soon can put a strain on the relationship and lead to a disappointing experience.  Try introducing one or two elements at a time, and add to them as you and your partner decide which things you found enjoyable.  Usually starting with a simple blindfold and an easily-escapable bondage rig – tying your mate’s hands loosely to the bedposts with a couple of old ties or Velcro restraints, for example – is enough of a start to get you and your partner comfortable with the idea.  After that, explore your fantasies with expansions of your bondage gear gradually.

An important consideration is how tightly you bind your partner (or wish to be bound yourself.)  Many novice BDSM enthusiasts make the mistake of thinking that the best way to begin is by tightly immobilizing their partner to the point where escape on their own is difficult or impossible.  While it’s true that a loss of control is implicit in the BDSM experience, it’s also important to remember that a novice is going to be nervous about that loss of control and might panic when faced with true immobility.  Usually the simple illusion of immobility is quite enough to convince someone to abandon their sense of control – once they are satisfied that they can escape at will if they get uncomfortable.  Lightly-restricting bondage gear with quick-release fasteners is usually perfectly adequate for a beginner’s BDSM experience.  

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The Safest Sex Toy Materials

October 24, 2019
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The Safest Sex Toy Materials

By Nicole Martinez

Although most sex toy manufacturers and retailers are quick to highlight the features of their products — how many times have you seen the “Waterproof” logo or wondered just how many vibration patterns a toy actually needs? — you should also pay attention to the material of sex toys. While it’s true that higher quality vibrators and dildos may have a higher initial investment, some materials are simply safer and healthier. If money is your bottom line, consider that safer materials also tend to need less replacing; thus, you may be saving money in the long run, when you purchase a sex toy made of safe materials.

Generally speaking, the safest materials are those that are non-porous or have a low porosity. Porous materials, like traditional jelly toys, have tiny holes that can harbor bacteria, even when your sex toy is physically clean. Most people disinfect items and surfaces in their home, even if those items come nowhere near the orifices of the body so why wouldn’t you want the same for your sex toy? Non-porous toys may also leak chemicals or oils, have a strong, unpleasant odor and can leech colors from other toys.

The following toys are completely non-pourous, when the entire toy is one piece. You can not only clean these materials with soap and water, but you can boil them for three minutes or treat them with the same bleach recipe that you would use to clean baby toys or bottles to disinfect. Toys without moving parts are safe to sanitize on the top shelf of your dishwasher, in a cycle without detergent. Note that many toys use a combination of materials. Any toy that has a seam offers a place for dirt and grime to hide, just like grout between tiles, even if the materials are all non-pores.

Silicone

Manufacturers such as Tantus have always crafted high-quality silicone products. Silicone ranges from rock-hard to lifelike, if you purchase Tantu’s SuperSoft dildos or a VikSkin piece from Vixen.  Big name companies like California Exotics now also produce a variety of silicone toys. However, companies can label their toys as silicone if they only contain 10% silicone. Be wary of silicone composites such as TPR Silicone because these are somewhat porous. Silicone should have no scent or taste and, most importantly, you can flame test it with a lighter. Pure silicone will not melt in temperatures lower than 600-degrees Fahrenheit; however, the flame test may leave a temporary smudge.

Glass

Glass may seem like an odd material for a sex toy at first but many people love its rigidity for hitting the right spot without a lot of force. It’s incredibly easy to feel the textures of glass sex toys and you can even apply cool or warm water for temperature play –never put the toy in the freeze or microwave as this can weaken the glass. Phallix is especially known for its glass dildos and some even include 24-karat gold.

Rest assured that your glass dildo will not break or even splinter aside of you; however, you may want to take care to store it in a padded pouch and to hold it securely when washing. Glass is especially easy to clean because it is so slick. For this reason, you can also use glass vibrators and dildos with less lubricant than you might need with other materials.

Metal

Metal sex toys, like the anal plugs and dildos from manufacturer Njoy, are rigid like glass but much heavier. Because of this, you may want to thrust more gently to avoid hitting your cervix or other sensitive parts and you want to avoid hitting your sink or dropping them on tile floors as you can damage your home. However, metal toys offer the benefit of being non-porous as well as responsive to temperature changes. 

Acrylics, Ceramics and Wood

Acrylic, ceramic and wood sex toys are not as common as silicone or even glass but consumers enjoy them because they offer hardness without the added weight. These materials may be non-porous; however, you should take care when cleaning them, For example, acrylic and ceramic dildos can scratch and you should not submerge wood because the moisture can allow mold to grow in your sex toys.  Stick to soap and water cleaning.

Ceramic vibrators and dildos are crafted, painted and then treated with a tough glaze that makes them non-porous and difficult to scratch. Ceramics come in every color of the rainbow and the glaze allows your ceramic sex toy to be painted with interesting designs like the dildos and vibrators from Lovemoiselle. Charles Duncan designs bright red and black ceramic pieces with unique shapes.

Acrylics, on the other hand, are a hard, synthetic plastic polymer. Acrylic dildos are translucent or transparent and often clear. However, you may find translucent acrylic sex toys with a hint of color, such as blue or pink.

Wood sex toys, like ceramic, are shaped and treated with a glaze, similar to a wooden salad bowl, that makes them healthy and safe. This safe treatment prevents the wood from splintering. Wood is quite light in comparison to other materials. Check out the dildo and anal toys from toy company Nobessence.

 

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Seven Tips for Dealing With Incompatible Sex Drives

October 24, 2019
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by Dr. E. C. Gordon

Seven Tips for Dealing With Incompatible Sex Drives

Although sex is not the most important part of a long term relationship, partners with different sex drives can find that this incompatibility starts to interfere with other aspects of their relationship. If your partner seems to be less interested in sex, you can feel unattractive, insecure and frustrated. Meanwhile, if your partner wants to have more frequent sex, you can feel pressured and resentful. Read on to discover seven tips that will help you to understand and deal with the difference between your partner’s sex drive and your own.

1) Have a long, honest conversation:
If you refuse to talk about your sex life, any problems can be magnified and can start to infect unexpected parts of your interpersonal dynamic. After a while, the whole relationship may turn sour. Given these possibilities, avoiding the issue is one of the worst decisions you can make if you and your partner have incompatible sex drives. That being said, many people find it awkward and uncomfortable to have frank conversations about sex, so if you decide to be the one to instigate the conversation then make sure you do so in a way that encourages your partner to open up. Start out by saying that you are not blaming anyone for the issues in your sex life, and that you want to discuss them so that you can work together to find a solution that will make things better. If the conversation starts to become an argument, try to keep calm and remind your partner that you only want to discuss this topic because you care about making sure that the relationship is as good as it can possibly be.

2) Find out whether foreplay is an issue:
People sometimes start to desire sex less because they are not deriving as much enjoyment from the act. In some cases, this is because one partner needs considerably more foreplay in order to feel like they are in the mood for sex. If you are the person with the higher sex drive, ask your partner if they think they would enjoy physical intimacy more if you spent more time kissing or touching before sex. Meanwhile, if you have realized that you would want to have sex more often if your partner tried harder to ‘warm you up’, then say so. This information does not have to be presented in the form of a criticism. For example, you might simply choose to say that you love the way your partner touches you and that you think you would find sex even hotter if more of this foreplay was involved.

3) Consider different forms of sexual intimacy:
Incompatible sex drives occasionally result from physical difficulties or discomfort. For example, men who struggle with erection problems may have lower sex drives due to nervousness and anxiety associated with sex. Meanwhile, women who have regularly experienced pain during sex may start to shy away from the act in case it hurts them. If you and your partner think that your sex life is being undermined by these types of physical issues, give some thought to expanding your sex life. For example, you might start focusing on manual or oral stimulation instead of intercourse.

4) Never have sex if you do not truly want to:
If your sex drive is lower than your partner’s, their unhappiness and your own feelings of guilt may make you feel as though you should just ‘get on with it’ even if you do not feel like doing so. While this may temporarily please the other person, it tends to have negative consequences in the long term. You may feel used or disconnected from your partner, and if they realize that you are having sex when you do not want to then they may feel offended and embarrassed. This type of well-meaning deception can cause trust issues that run deeper and last longer than the problems in your sex life.

5) Never pressure your partner to have sex:
If you have a higher sex drive than your partner, it is vital that you never make them feel as though they are under pressure  to have sex with you. While you should always be honest if a lack of sex is making you unhappy, you need to draw a distinction between being truthful about your feelings and trying to manipulate your partner into being physically intimate so that you feel better. Your partner is under no obligation to do anything that they do not want to do, and trying to pressure someone into having sex is a form of psychological abuse that violates the person’s autonomy.

6) Think about trying new things:
If you used to have compatible sex drives and there are no obvious physical or emotional issues that could be causing a reduction in one of your sex drives, boredom may be the root cause. Although it is often easiest to continue repeating a tried and tested sexual routine, over time the repetition can lead to one or both parties feeling somewhat numb to what used to be a satisfying source of stimulation. When prompted to reflect, the member of the relationship with the lower sex drive may realize and admit that they would be more interested in sex if there was more variety on offer. You can then discuss new positions, purchases and ideas that might make intimacy more exciting (and make your sex drives more compatible).

7) Explore counseling:
Finally, sex therapists and certain relationship counselors are trained to help couples explore the reasons underlying their sexual difficulties, so it is worth considering this option if discussions between you and your partner have not managed to improve your sex life. Although it sounds daunting to discuss something so personal with a stranger, remember that counselors and therapists are required to abstain from judgmental behavior or remarks and that they will have seen many other couples with problems that are more unusual than yours.

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